[quote]batman730 wrote:
[quote]TheKraken wrote:
[quote]Testy1 wrote:
[quote]batman730 wrote:
[quote]carbiduis wrote:
This doesnt sound very “Alpha”
Whenever I pass someone driving slowly in an expensive car, i always make the assumption that after their monthly payments, they simply cannot afford a speeding ticket.
Making eye contact and then exchanging smiles with a guy the way you deacribe sounds kinda…gay
I have no time for slowness, 24hrs/day isnt enough. We only have one life and im trying to pack in as much as possible. I get the points youre making but i am not trying to appear to be “high-class” or whatever the fuck you said. Im trying to get my groceries and be on my way cause i have like 10 things to do before the day is done.
Do you maintain your slowness in job interviews? Do you maintain it while at your workplace? Im not sure there is anything quite as inferiorating as a slow coworker [/quote]
Actually, a job interview is one setting where a lot of people would benefit from deliberately slowing down. I’ve read that the rule of thumb is that you should speak about 20% slower than feels natural. The idea is that most people suffering from nerves at an interview (or presentation, or speaking engagement etc) will tend to talk way too fast without even realizing it.
There is something to be said for being patient, mindful and methodical in your actions. This can actually help you to be more productive. It allows you the time to see circumstances developing around you, to plan your next move and to make adjustments for things you wouldn’t necessarily have noticed or may have forgotten if you’re too rushed. You spend less time fixing things you missed in your haste. Slow is smooth, smooth is fast and all that. This is essential in high risk activities. You still move with a purpose, just not in the mad, half panicked rush people seem to slip into when they’re in a hurry or they think they’re “multi-tasking”.
I would sooner have a co-worker who took his time, paid attention thought things through and then took intelligent action than one who was forever charging ahead trying to git 'r done. Actually my right thumb is about half an inch shorter than it was thanks to the excessive initiative of one former coworker.
That said, what SM is describing or at least the way in which he describes it sounds like something different. [/quote]
Great post
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this would really depend on the position and the interviewer. That is the problem with interviewing, its so subjective there is no perfect interview.
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Completely agree on the subjectivity of interviews and the lack of any “magic formula”.
That said, I would think that more often than not taking a moment to catch your breathe frame your answers intelligently then speaking slowly and clearly enough that you can be understood and that the interviewer can process what you’re saying would be preferable to rushing breathlessly through and letting your mouth run ahead of your brain, no?
Genuine question. Seems to me you are/were an HR guy, so you likely know better than me, the guy sitting on the other side of the table.
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I am a corporate recruiter and in the past have been a head hunter and a lot of what I do is coach people for interviews.
You’re right, taking a moment to answer intelligently and giving a moment for the interviewer to absorb the info you just gave to them is the right way to handle it. Hyper people in interviews are a pet peeve of mine. Most of my recruiting has been for sale positions, and if a salesmen doesn’t know when to shut up, they’ll lose the sale. Most interviewers will pretty much or directly tell you what they are looking for in general and sometimes in the interview, so listening skills are vital to the process and generally important to business and your success.
You want to show passion and even some excitement about the industry you’re trying to get into, but at the same time be centered and professional. My best advice, have a plan. Decide what you want this person to know about you by the end of the interview, and communicate that through your explanation of your experience, knowledge and what you can do to help them solve what ever problem they want to solve by paying someone to do the job. The best way to do all of the above is by examples in your past, or “don’t tell them, show them.”