I've been practicing this every day for quite a while now. Basically, I slow everything I do down including my breathing. I also practice sitting comfortably without moving. It's kind of like meditation but I'm actually retraining my body and mind to slow down and chill out. It feels great immediately and makes you feel more comfortable in social situations and where there are lots of people around.
At first walking slow was really hard and felt terribly awkward. But I slowly got more and more used to it and now it's my regular walk. Everything I used to do fast I now do slow. Including driving.
This happened this morning and the same thing as happened previously: in the traffic I slowly drop to the very back of the pack and drive 5-10kms slower than the speed limit nice and smoothly. Every time I move my hands to and from the wheel or anything else I do it real slow and smooth. Everything I do now is slow and I really feel much better and more relaxed. I saw another guy in a new Mercedes doing exactly the same thing. Neither of us were copying the other. We made eye contact and he gave me a smile of approval. He was an older guy dressed immaculately and had manicured finger nails. His smoothness and natural grace and control was impressive. I observed him closely and I'm working towards that kind of self control. That's what it is. It's basically mastering your emotions and body language.
I have no idea if slow, controlled demeanor might be attractive to ladies as that's something a guy like me would know nothing about.
Seriously, though it carries over to how other people treat you. If you are really slow and controlled taking your money out of your pocket at the shop the guy at the counter will think you're a high status individual because everyone else rushes to get their money out and apologises for everything and this is basically like wearing a sign saying "low status guy." Everyone else does too. Mastering your emotions is an essential skill of being a man in my opinion. It's pretty funny watching top tier execs and Doctors and so on who are skittish and nervous and look really uncomfortable and you're next to them in shorts and a singlet yet everyone knows you're top dog and the insecure phoneys know it too and can't make eye contact. They look at the ground as you go past.
There are many other benefits to learning to chill the fuck out. I wish I'd learned to do this earlier in life. Has anyone else practiced / learned this? Or any experiences with it?