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Porn Addict?

My girlfriend and I have been going out for about a year now and everything is great, but she sometimes gets on my nerves when she bugs me about looking at porn every day. She is so unbelievably hot, although I find that I would rather look at porn sometimes than have sex with my girlfriend. I look at porn on the internet basically every day, but I really don’t believe that this poses any sort of problem, other than the fact that it disturbs her. She thinks that if I’m constantly getting my thrills from porn that it takes away from her share of sex. I also have a major fetish involving stockings and heels, and my girlfriend complains because she is always willing and eager to wear anything that turns me on, and wonders why I need to get visual stimulation somewhere else. Do you think I have a problem if I look at porn basically every day? Bo.

You don’t have a problem looking at porn everyday. BUT you do have a problem when you would rather look at porn than have sex with an “unbelievably hot” girl.

It’s no big deal if your gf isn’t there waiting in bed for you to finish up or if she’s getting more action with you than your porno. It’s a huge problem though if you’d rather look at pics/vids of Jenna/Aria Giovanni/Veronika Zemanova/Rocco Siffredi shoving some girl’s head into a toilet to keep her from screaming, instead of doing it with a real life girl especially if she’s into it. When you feel the need to look at that stuff phone a friend etc to get your mind off it phone your girlfriend & make her feel sexy for once or get out of the house.

The amount or frequency of porn isn’t an issue. However, when you would rather look at porn than be with a real woman, there is a problem.

Yes, you have a problem. If you really care for her, then this issue would be resolved. She’s willing to fulfill your fetish, she wants sex with you, and you’re on the net looking at other women. Get therapy, or just let her go so she can get a REAL relationship with some one else.

I don’t think there’s a problem. Guys will always look at other “available options”. I think its healthy because there’s a certain amount of fantasy that comes into play. C’mon, like you can deny that you’ve never seen your dad checking out those young girls. If not, then I’d better have a talk with mine.

The question of addictions which is what you are talking about is simple. If you are asking you are addicted. Meaning you would not question if there were nothing to question. Get help. Personally I see nothing wrong with porn. My opinion doesn’t matter as you are the one questioning the behavior.

If it’s interfering in your relationship, which it sounds like it is it’s a problem. If you try to stop and can’t it’s a problem. I have a tough time with the concept of something with no physiological component being actually addictive. Gambling and porn don’t do anything to your bloodstream. They do something though because some people really have a problem with them. I’d try giving the shit up for a while and see where you go with that. Looking at other chicks is different than skipping real sex with a hottie to go click click click on internet porn sites.

I think you have a problem if you can’t get off unless its by porn or you have to fantasize about the porn chicks you see when you are screwing your girlfriend

I agree with the general sentiment here: oit may not be a problem that you like to look at it, but it is a problem that it interferes with a real-life promising relationship and you fault HER for being concerned and defend yourself. When we start trading off real-life for pursuit of private pleasure, that’s one of the firast signs of any addiction: porn, drugs, alcohol, gambling…Oh, and BTW, therapists also say that being upset by other peoples’ criticisms of our habits is usually the second warning sign of a problem.

You are obviously a sicko. That will be 25 cents please.

just fuck her in front of the porn.

You are just a real T-men hahaha !!
Just decrease androsol a little bit !

And I’m agree with Colin !

Byp0

I think the real issue here is that your girlfriend is actually your right hand, and you’re lying to us about having a really hot girlfriend!

If you haven’t yet, read TC’s Feng Shui of the Soul in his Atomic Dawg column. It was posted sometime last year, so your going to have to go through the back issues.

Bo, let’s see how I can say this tactfully. OK, I got it! You’re a degenerate. I hope I wasn’t too blunt. I mean, I think I’d just cry if I thought I may have offended someone. Moreover, you mention that you have fetishes. Most psychiatrists agree that fetishism is a sign of severe sexual disorientation. Fetishism is found in virtually all serial killers, rapists, voyeurs, exibitionists, pedophiles, necrophiles, and just about every other sexual deviant there is. Too make a long story short, yes you are sexually aberrant and deviant. Yes, you have a severe moral, spiritual, and psychological PROBLEM.

i think SubhuMaN is correct and you don’t really have an “incredibly hot girlfriend”. To restore your credibility upload some nude pics of her give us the URL.

sounds like a problem to me! she is your girl, give her some respect, you are lucky she is putting up with your shit, if i get laid 3 times a day it is not enough, bro, get away from the computer, you got the real deal right there

I don’t think it is a real problem, unless your girlfriend gets really bitchy about it.

You don’t have a problem bro, what time do you like to look at the porno? I’d be happy to give your girl a guided tour of the outlaw estate so you and your porno can be alone together.