[quote]CaliforniaLaw wrote:
Airtruth wrote:
On a Side note 6 hours is a long ass time to be socializing, damn take a break or something.
I look at introversion like this: We have anaerobic energy for social activities. We have great strength in short bursts, but we need lots of rest periods. Extroverts are marathon runners. They can keep blabbing on about nothing forever.
It’s not an issue of changing yourself. It’s an issue of recognizing where you are strong - and capitalizing on that. You must also recognize where you are weak - and mitigate those weaknesses.
After a long day, some port and a cigar does the trick for me. Others have different ways to refresh themselves.
What’s important is, as with training, finding what works for you.[/quote]
not to single claw out, but his post is easy to expand on.
i think retreating in to your fear of social situations is the worst thing you can do.
as with any situations, when the going gets tough, the tough get going.
if viewing socializing as weight lifting helps, do that. but instead of working hard and quitting, look at it from another angle.
pick that one exercise that you really hate to do but know you must work on because it is your weak link. concentrate on that exercise often until you strengthen it.
put yourself in social situations, see that people are people, all have their own personalities, faults, positives etc.
realize not everyone will like you, and you will not like everyone for a variety of reasons.
if you need a spotter, bring a good friend you can tag along with if need be, but try to squeeze the lift out yourself.
you can teach yourself to be social. everyone does, whether it is a process picked up as a child or one a late bloomer experiences, and all people adapt as they age and develop to new peer groups, new likes and dislikes etc.
all people are nervous in some situations too. i would wager even the people in the public eye get nervous around their peers be it brad pitt or george bush.
basically, just quit being a wuss.