[quote]CaliforniaLaw wrote:
You sound like a classic introvert. I have had the same problem. People bore me. I have no interest in small talk. I would much rather read a book than talk to people. If you have a high IQ, your life will be even more complicated, as you will met few people in life you can have meaningful conversations with.
Most people want to talk about sports, cars, TV shows, or video games. Oh, and about their mediocre “lives” and “goals.”
There is a good book called “The Introvert Advantage.” Lots of helpful tips in there.
What I do when I have to socialize is drug myself. I drink a lot of coffee (just measure it out so you can keep pace), take Spike tabs or Spike shooters. Then some more caffeine. This keeps me “chatty” and lets me forget that I’m having a conversation with a really stupid person about his car, or how “bad ass” the latest TV show or video game is. I also read People Magazine so I can know the names of these women they lust over and masturbate to.
Also, read some books on communicating with people. Larry King has a good book out there called “How to Talk to Anyone, Anyplace, Anytime.” What I do is skim the headlines (even sports) and then pop a question to let the other person give his dumb-ass opinion about it. “Do you think Kobe should be MVP?” is one example of question you can ask. Or, “Which Jessica is hottest?” They will go on and on as if this is fucking literary interpretation. Whatever works.
Also, something I do to entertain myself is focus in on a facial feature and imagine the person’s head morphing. I was able to talk to a boring and stupid person for three hours because he had big ears and a big nose. I keep thinking, “Man, this guy is teen wolf!” I just kept following-up with questions.
People lead horribly boring lives, but they think they are the protagonist in the Great American Novel. Humor them by asking them questions. .
Remember, though, it’s an art. You can’t let the person feel like you are condescending. You also can’t make them feel like it’s the 3d degree. You have to really show interest. Don’t ask disjointed questions. Follow-up based on what they’ve already said. “Dude, that’s so interesting that you played high school football. Did you ever consider playing in college?”
Go buy those books today. And good luck.[/quote]
For one who feels their so above it and bored by it you sure expend a lot of energy on planning and dealing with it.
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