[quote]LIFTICVSMAXIMVS wrote:
DS 007 wrote:
LIFTICVSMAXIMVS wrote:
Lorisco wrote:
It can if the word White comes in front of it and the person saying it clearly has the power, as in this case. So in this situation it clearly was a racist comment.
This is not a racist comment. In order for it to be considered racist the person using the slur has to show some hatred for white people and or believe his race to be superior over any other race. It may have been a prejudiced comment but certainly not a racist comment.
I find it hard to believe in a room full of black men a black man used the term “white boy” to a white man in a racist context; especially since this phrase is often used by blacks to make some perceived judgment as to the level of knowledge a white person can have in regards to stereotypical black topics. Is it really considered racism if a black person calls me a “white boy” because I try to wax philosophic about “soul food” with him (this actually happened to me)? Again, it may be a prejudiced phrase but it isn’t racist.
Ah! So I’m lying about it. Shit, man. I thought it really happened. Thanks for clearing it up. Here is a summation of the (imagined) conversation:
me: i think we can negotiate a rate increase. 10% across the board should be the goal. our profitablility is decreased…blah blah blah.
him (to my associate, a black guy, VP of operations): mike, you going to negotiate the rate increase or do you send the white boy in for this stuff?
(nervous laughter all around)
mike: we’ll probably both be at the meeting.
him: good. appraise me of how it affects our contract.
That’s the jist. It was odd, ill placed and stupid. I didn’t eat me up inside or even piss me off. It was just weird. I’d just like to see me do that to a subordinate.
You were clearly being complemented.
If it was weird you should have been a man and said something to him (in private) no matter his rank in the company. To one-up him you could have replied back, “This white-boy will get on it” or something else to that effect. It would have shown some character and at the same time just be sarcastic enough to get your point across.
I personally, would have been more irritated by being referred to in the third person as if I wasn’t sitting there but then again I have issues with authority figures in general.[/quote]
Hey! Thanks for all the great pointers! I don’t know where I’d be in my life without people like you telling me how to do things RIGHT! Thanks for telling me how to be a man, too! I’ll take that advice, since you know all the details: this guys background, what kind of attitude he has, who he is, what he’s about, the exact nature of our relationship, how the contract is structured…
Again, turn it around. What if I chose to compliment an employee saying, “You doing this deal yourself or are you assigning it to the black guy over there?”