Ok so when I went to college this past fall I was 203-204lbs decent bf%. Over the semester I bulked to 216 obviously with a higher bf% but nothin outrageous. My chest still stuck out farther than my stomach which IMO is anyways good.
Anyway when I got home nobody comment on my add size they just said “Yeah you’re bigger but you also got fat”. I tried explaining to my family how you add muscle and what a bulking phase is but they don’t get it. No one sees the bigger picture or how I will look down the road. They are just concerned with the present. Now I feel all self conscious and my gains don’t even seem all that great to me anymore. It just makes me want to go back to school and do my own thing sooner.
Has this happened to anyone else? Does your family or friends critise and focus on all the wrong things?
You gained 10 lbs., of which the majority was fat. What did you expect them to say?
If you are comitted enough to your plan and have specific goals in mind then it shouldn’t bother you. If as you say they don’t understand, why would it even affect you?
It would be like vroom trying to change my mind. [/quote]
No no I’m sorry I’m not making myself clear. I gained around 10 lbs probably 7 muscle 3 fat. It’s just that they only focus on certain things.
This might help. since I was 6 I was a competitive swimmer so my family is used to seeing me with absolutely no fat. In college decided not to swim and focus on lifting. So any body fat to them is seen as “Wow you’re fat”.
However, I see what you’re saying. Sometimes being surrounded by negativety can really bring you down. I guess I just needed a pick me up from people who might have gone this kind of thing before.