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Your Way of Dealing With Stress?


#82

uh, I totally mentioned it like 8 billion posts ago…

I also recommended drugs. They can be ever so soothing.


#83

How about “doubting meditation”? It’s a cool technique where you challenge the existence of the self, and realize that the self is simply a mental construct. You meditate with the mantra “What is no self?”, but you don’t think of it analytically like a math problem, rather let it permeate. For me, it really helps me let go of work stress and family stress.

Also, drugs.


#84

Another trick that I like to do:

Take 1 natural grown banana (not one with pesticides)

Cut it up (without peeling).
Put it in like 3.5dl of water and boil for 7 minutes. Then add a teaspoon of cinnamon and stir a littile and leave it to boil for another 3 minutes.

Drink 1 cup about 30-60mins before going to bed. First time I did it, I was literally turning around in my bed and thinking “this shit isn’t working…” - next thing I remember is waking up in the morning.

I don’t know chemistry behind this, but it works for me.


#85

Thank you for asking.

There are lots of small things that help. I’m not prone to anxiety or depression, but we all have to deal with routine life stress, disappointments, difficult people.

A Passion
I think it helps to have a hobby or two that you really enjoy. It’s always a bright spot, something to look forward to. Exercise is this for me. Having some kind of goal related to that gives me something to look forward to.

Meditation
I have a meditation practice, and I feel better on days I meditate. There’s lots of research to back this up.

Books
I always have a good book or two going. Something to think about, and look forward to. An escape. A pleasant distraction when I have to wait somewhere.

Gratitude
I try to focus on the positive things, feel grateful, count my blessings. I almost always feel worse when I complain or vent about something. I do better when I just try to focus on positive things, and don’t complain. I often feel guilty when I complain about some things, and that makes it worse.

I think we assume it’s a easy for some people to be naturally positive all the time, but I think most positive people have to make an effort to do that. I have some naturally positive brain chemistry that I likely inherited from my dad, but I think people also work on controlling their negative thoughts from coming out, acting instead of reacting. I’m a work in progress. I fail a lot.

Sleep
I get up about the same time everyday. I don’t cope as well when I’m sleep deprived. I’m more likely to cry easily or loose my patience. The same goes for when I’m hungry.

If you’re prone to anxiety, some people have worse anxiety symptoms if they’re using a lot of stimulants(too much coffee), have an irregular sleep cycle, or have big swings/drops in blood sugar. All these things can set off a stress response in many of us.

Make Time for Relationships
I have a supportive family and a few good friends. You need a few close relationships, people who always have your back.

Eve, I read a book that you might like. The Happiness Project, by Gretchen Rubin. She gets into some of the research in what makes us happier, and she tried adopting some of these habits every month for a year.


#86

That’s actually deep.


#87

How come you doing this?
Did you read about it or someone suggested ?


#88

I checked the book on Amazon and I think I’m going to order and give it a go in my summer vacations,thanks :pray: :pray:
I find myself doing or trying to do what you describing, its so nice to see how other people think on this, nicer when you actually see you have much in common :grin:


#89

This is underappreciated (and is advocated by the stoics might I add). It’s quite amazing when you actively shift your perspective of any event from one of negativity to a more positive frame. Building upon that moment becomes easier and easier the more you practice this.

“Take full account of what excellencies you possess, and in gratitude remember how you would hanker after them if you had them not.” Marcus Aurelius

There’s tons more about gratitude for what you have from the other stoics I’ve read as well, Seneca, Epictetus, Zeno, etc

Fantastic post all around PP - thanks again for giving us a glimpse of your perspective.


#90

I live a very low stress life now but during my college days, that sure wasn’t the case. I got through it by just going out to play basketball for a few hours, or numbing my brain on video games.

Now, if I ever feel stressed, I usually just ask myself “will this matter at the end of the week?” If the answer is no, then I just deal with it and move on. Adapting a much more go with the flow mindset has really changed things for the better for me.


#91

I got suggestion from someone.

Then I googled and found out many people do it.


#92

Thanks for that tip, too!!!


#93

I just finished a podcast about suicide (thejeffcavinsshow@ascensionpress). In it Jeff Cavins talked about cultivating “emotional resiliency”. He quoted the head of alternative medicine at the Mayo clinic Amit Sood. Dr. Sood’s list of ways to be “emotionally resilient” has MUCH in common with your list.


#94

No problem.

Just to ask, do you have sleeping issues sometimes?


#95

No, except summer with heat, but in a while I’m sleeping for good. The main reason I will consume magnesium is to help my testo levels rise a little bit.
Do you ??


#96

Not really. I had for a while because of some health issue but I got used to it so I sleep a lot. Possibly even too much.

My testo levels were today proven to be good hahaha… today is wild at work… xD


#97

@probnit8
I hope you are fine from that health issue, I mean for you to have recovered, if not I hope soon!
Good for you happy to hear that about your T, I hope magnesium will actually help me, too :grin: if not I’ll go to the others you mentioned!


#98

I didn’t do actual test for my T but I have lots of random boners recently.

Some girl showed me her boobs yesterday at work and I got hard instantly hahaha. So my T is most likley really good.

And about health issue… I’m still dealing with it. I don’t even know what it is yet.


#99

Hahahaha good for you then😂
What exactly is your symptoms?


#100

Nausea, lack of apetite, lack of energy… to make it short - blood tests showed high white blood cell count and increased liver enzymes.

I even saw specialist and he sent me to do more tests that I didn’t do yet. I however think I will be OK because I’m not yellow hahaha


#101

Hey what’s wrong with being Chinese?