This is something that has been on my mind, and I think is especially relevant to the fitness/bodybuilding community. This is just "food for thought". I'm not necessarily behind any of the ideas here, I just wanted to see what you all thought about this..
So I was out having a drink the other night and ran into a female friend of mine. She's attractive and a very smart girl. Somehow we got to talking about kids and she said "I don't want any kids because I don't want my body to go to shit." This got the ol' wheels turning in my head pretty hard... I couldn't help but think "hang on a minute, the only reason biology gave you a hot body in the first place is to attract a mate so that you can have children". It made me think of the guys who have nice cars but never drive them for fear of scratching the paint. Isn't the purpose of having a car to drive it? Then this got me thinking about bigger issues here..
No one really knows what the meaning of life is, but from a purely biological standpoint, we can safely say that our purpose is to survive into reproductive age and then reproduce. That's what all of our faculties are geared towards. Now obviously society has given us other purposes than simply to breed as rapidly as possible as a soon as we can, BUT I would think that if we fail at our very basic purpose, then it would be psychologically damaging on some level.
For males, we are supposed to protect, provide, and procreate. We are supposed to fight off rival males and put our DNA in as fine a female as we can, and then protect and provide for her offspring until we die a sad/violent and thankless death. And yet, sometimes we pursue the "protect" part (becoming hugely muscled) and the "provide" part (making lots of money) to the detriment of that very purpose.
History is littered with men who have chased paper to the point of ignoring their families or even not having a family at all. Rich guys seem to have the fewest children of anyone. What, really, is the purpose of being a great provider if you don't actually provide? And how many bodybuilders jeopardize their health for the appearance of being a good protector? Or who blow all their money on juice? How many women jeopardize their reproductive systems in order to make themselves more sexually attractive? What's the point of being sexually attractive if you never achieve the real point of sex: procreation?
Of course society puts pressure on women not to have children. Society doesn't value the married mother. I honestly find myself tuning out women once I find out they are off of the market. It might be unfair but its just how it goes. On the other side of it, society doesn't value the uncool "dad" either. It worships the vain playboy entrepreneur.
Again I want to reiterate, I am not judging or making assertions here. This is just something that has been rolling around in my mind lately and was curious what you guys thought.
****EDIT: Let me clarify: I'm asking two things:
1) What do you think your purpose in life is?
2) Do you think there are any negative consequences to skipping basic purposes/functions and pursuing "higher" level purposes? ****