Maybe some of you can shed some light on a personal dilemma. To get straight to the point; there is this attractive girl within a social circle I am a part of (not my main circle of friends) that I'm into and want to essentially get with. We've never really had any alone time together yet where I've had the opportunity to really get close with her.
Part of the reason for this is because I know through communication with other people in our little circle that another dude has been trying to get with her. Normally this wouldn't be a problem as I don't mind a little competition but (and here come the excuses) firstly, this dude is in the Abercrombie and Fitch league of good looks and second, I don't know the extent of their relationship, except that they're not dating per se (and it wouldn't bother me if they fucked once or twice).
I know both of these are mental excuses borne from insecurity, and yes, I feel like a pussy, but I just can't get myself to even "try" anything with her. I really believe this situation has exposed a larger problem in my belief system. I've been with girls who have boyfriends (found out after) but for the some of the cases I've felt like the respective dudes fucked up instead of me succeeding.
I know if I get with this girl I'll feel like he screwed up instead of me "winning her over."