[quote]angry chicken wrote:
[quote]marrot wrote:
Bro do you even get flaked?
I am currently getting dead silence from girls that have said word for word the following to/about me:
(Not bragging)
“He looks like a model…[to friend, about me, with me directly nearby]”
“Oh my god, you HAVE to give me your number…”
“Only if you PROMISE to call or text.” (me)
“Yes I PROMISE!”
“Now I know for sure you do this all the time. Where did you learn to give head like that?”
“Do you want my number? Maybe we can workout together sometime.”
“How about you give me your number and you can… tutor me some time.”
“ Text me, OK? Don’t forget. Text me.”
“You mean you just say “hey” to strangers to see what’s up sometimes? You know what? You are my kind of guy. Here’s my number, text me some time.”
…I have more of these too if you want to see what kind of texts I’ve gotten.
From my limited experience if you are the one to ask for her number, you might as well find another girl.[/quote]
To put this conundrum into “game” vernacular, you are spiking her attraction without building enough comfort which triggers her anti-slut defense mechanism when she is no longer in the moment which leads to buyers remorse…
In other words, SLOW DOWN… Don’t peak the attraction too soon, let it build. Create a vacuum by pulling back a little and “invite” her into YOUR frame. It’s like dancing, you have to LEAD subtly. When you want her to spin, you raise your arm (with proper timing) and create the opportunity for her, it’s an invitation to spin - you don’t twirl her like a top… Same with building attraction and comfort, it’s all about flipping switches in the PROPER ORDER and creating space for her “curiosity” to explore.
It sounds to me like you’re “peaking” too early. If you’re going to do that, you have to bounce her, isolate her and close the deal while you’re in the moment and strike while the iron is hot. If you let it cool without sufficient escalation, she’ll run away (which is what’s happening).
So either (A) escalate quickly after you’ve triggered attraction or (B) dial back the IOI’s and other attraction triggers and pull back a little so that she comes to you.
If you’re a good looking guy, you almost HAVE to dial back the attraction - because attraction is a given (you’re hot and fit into that archetype in her brain). Instead, you have to focus on COMFORT and RAPPORT because you have to undo some of the assumptions about you (in HER mind, you are already a player) and cultivate some mystery.
Dial it back a few notches and see how that works for you.[/quote]
Well said.