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Would You Marry A Porn Star?

Would You Marry A Porn Star?

There are a LOT of interesting conversations me and my boys get into in the gym or while we’re out…and one of the most “heated” was one that I wanted to pose to The Nation (both male AND female members)…and it’s a serious question:

Would you marry a Porn Star?

(Be careful…you may think it’s an “easy” question, but let me set up the scenario…)

You’re in the gym, and catch the eye of a very cute member (I’ll just say “she” for the guys…but remember that I’m talking to The Nation Gals also).

She is in the gym a lot…she has a GREAT smile…and as you talk more and more, you find out that not only do you guys have a lot in common…she just seems “real”…

You both really become close over time…and VERY serious about each other…but one day she “lowers the bomb”…we’re not talking about some soft-core pics here and there…we’re talking about all-over-the-internet, numerous DVD, “Vivid” Award winning, every orifice imaginable, thousands of encounters, “specialty” hard-core starlet.

For sake of argument:

  1. She been out of the business for almost a year now…she just didn’t want to do it anymore.

  2. There are NO issues of drug addiction, previous sexual, mental or physical abuse…or of herpes and HIV (real recognized hazards of the business).

  3. You’ve found yourself absolutely taken with her and she with you…BUT

Would you take it further?
Why or why not?

Let me tell you guys…with this being a multi-billion dollar industry, I will guarantee you that it ain’t just a lot of homebound weirdos watching porn (try looking in the mirror!)…and answering this question can put a BIG spotlight on your own hypocrisy…

(If this thread takes off…I’ll share with you some of my thoughts…and some of those arguments that me and my “Posse” had!)

What do you think?

Mufasa

Only if she was still willing to bring some of her female starlet friends over for sleep overs!

You’re god damn right I would take things further. So basically she has already done all the things, most of us dream about doing? Sounds like it would be a wonderful time, I wouldn’t care if she was still doing it either. Shit it’s just sex, as long as she was protected I would probably like it.

Plus there is probably a 99% chance that she has hot pornstar friends and would probably do many cool things with you and said pornstar friends. Hypocrocy is pure BS, Every (or almost every) dude would love for his girl to bring home oodles of hot women for them to share together, so if my chick really wants that… pornstar or not, it’s her life not mine. Plus it would be way cool to tell people your wife is Brianna Banks or Jill Kelly.

Would the fact that she had done all that stuff prior to us dating keep me from dating her? No, not at all. Quite a turn-on for me, actually.

But the reasons most girls get into that probably would. The odds of finding a porn star that I’d be interested in for the long haul are really, really low.

Your item number 2 about no prior abuse would do a good job of ruling out most of these girls. Many of them have issues. I’m not being a misogynist here, just a realist. I have issues too. I’m not judging these girls at all, but you have to go with the odds and say that nearly every one of these girls has some problems with them. (By “these girls” I mean the ones that do more than just one or two porn clips/shoots. If you look at the number of girls that have appeared in pornographic material, it’s staggering. But it’s one thing to do it, realize you don’t like it, and move on. It’s another to keep going back to it.)

But honestly, the odds of this happening (a porn star being able to interest me past sex) is extremely small. If one were to interest me, then no, it wouldn’t be a problem whatsoever.

I dont think I could do it…

I imagine that I would act like I was cool about it but over time it would just eat me away. I know myself pretty well and I imagine that I would have to check out a lot of the movies and then I would develop some huge complex and sabotage the thing. For some reason we all want to marry virgins but in today’s world that just aint gonna happen.

No way I could do it or at least there is no way that it would last very long!

Everyone is so uptight about sex. Sex isn’t just for making babies it’s for fun as well. Porn is a business and a very huge business (pun intended?). If you think about it how big of a deal is it really? These people get to have sex and make money doing it. If someone is comfortable being nude in front of millions of people and having sex in front of them more power to them. Who are we to put them down for their decision? Everything happens for a reason. Now I know the religious (most of who are very close minded) will talk about how they will go to hell and blah blah blah. Nobody is going to hell so get over it and enjoy life. If you love this girl then why wouldn’t you want to marry her? There is more to a relationship then just the sex. If the love is there then that is all that should matter. Go for it. And if you haven’t had sex with her yet then your sure going to enjoy your ride! Whooo!!!

no.

I have more class.

1 pornstar in the family would be enough!

[quote]provy07 wrote:
Now I know the religious (most of who are very close minded) will talk about how they will go to hell and blah blah blah. /quote]

Not all religious people think this way. Generally the loudmouth ones do, though.

Just a note, the question was MARRY not DATE. There can be a difference between the two… to you horndogs just thinking she’d be a wild lay with the possibility of threesomes.

[quote]provy07 wrote:
And if you haven’t had sex with her yet then your sure going to enjoy your ride! Whooo!!![/quote]

Are you sure about this. She is a porn “Actress”. If you have been stroking to her movies, and are expecting the wild screaming orgasmic animal who wants all her holes filled with LARGE objects at the same time while her hands are buried deep in other girls, you are in for a large disappointment.

She is not going to ACT for you. She’s gonna be herself. What you see on screen isnt what you are getting. You are getting a woman not a sexual image manipulated to sell jerk-off movies.

Tonights lovin’ isnt gonna be “Pick a Fuckhole Roulette”.

She may have only done “Anal” because they tagged on an extra $1000 if she did, and in real life wont go there except on your birthday!

Maybe she only does women on screen for the $$$.

Are you expecting her be a cum loving cant get enough of the taste wishin’ she could buy it at the store and drink it like Coke Classic oral slut?

Again, I’m betting only if the money is right!

If you honestly believe that what you see on the screen is really her. Then fantasize away.

This is a hard one to approach because I am a hypocrite.One one side, I fantasize about sex with porn stars, doing all the standards and some of the stunt sex. On the other side, the women I actualy choose to be with and have had relationships end up doing the same things in bed anyways.
The only real question for me would be-Besides what she does or did for a living, does she embody the qualities that I seek in a woman? Does she have confidence in herself? Is her identity based on who she is as a person,rather than what she does for a living?The reason I put emphasis on this is because there is nothing more irritating than a person whos’ identity is based on what they do or who they are dating.This has happened a few times now and it doesn’t matter to me anymore if she has a Masters degree in her chosen field or is even a professional at anything.Without any true character, it’s just a shell shapped like a girl. So if she is a porn star that can hold her own in a crowd of people, with her own opinions,attitudes and attributes, she would deffinitely be in the running, but if she is just a fembot with a plastic personality, I don’t care what she does, she’s out.

At some point in her adult life she said;
“Yes, I will have sex with strangers for money, and allow myself to be taped while doing this.”
I’m definately not one to hold someone’s past against them, but you would want this woman to raise your children? Dating her for the fun of dating her is one thing, but when you’re going to marry someone, you have to think, “This woman will teach my daughter how to act…” Think about that for a minute.

I wouldn’t worry about all the hot sexual stuff she can do for you, I’d worry about if you could keep her entertained as well. Among the many Aerosmith songs that are classics, I would consider “Big Ten Inch”, and perhaps “Jaded” for backround music as I meditated and pondered whether or not to marry this gal. Keep us imformed whatever you do. Vicarious experience is sometimes better than no experience.

I would say No…but let me explain. I am sure I’d be ok with jealousy and other emotions that may come along with being with someone who’s been in the business. The problem I would have is the world at large. People who recognize her and would assume she’s a sexual beast who loves it in the ass and does threesomes and some earlier posters automatically assume. That would get on my nerves! Not to mention the emotional support you’d have to give her when she comes home crying cause the 16 year old grocery clerk made a comment when she was buying a cucumber for my salad!

Just my 2cents

I dont think i could do it. Just picturing some of the things/all the people she has been with. What if your family or friends found out? Or you had kids and they found out? Or worse, their friends.

mwuhahahaha!

[quote]Chewman wrote:
provy07 wrote:
And if you haven’t had sex with her yet then your sure going to enjoy your ride! Whooo!!!

Are you sure about this. She is a porn “Actress”. If you have been stroking to her movies, and are expecting the wild screaming orgasmic animal who wants all her holes filled with LARGE objects at the same time while her hands are buried deep in other girls, you are in for a large disappointment.

She is not going to ACT for you. She’s gonna be herself. What you see on screen isnt what you are getting. You are getting a woman not a sexual image manipulated to sell jerk-off movies.

Tonights lovin’ isnt gonna be “Pick a Fuckhole Roulette”.

She may have only done “Anal” because they tagged on an extra $1000 if she did, and in real life wont go there except on your birthday!

Maybe she only does women on screen for the $$$.

Are you expecting her be a cum loving cant get enough of the taste wishin’ she could buy it at the store and drink it like Coke Classic oral slut?

Again, I’m betting only if the money is right!

If you honestly believe that what you see on the screen is really her. Then fantasize away.[/quote]

You took it the wrong way. I didn’t mean to imply she would do all the stuff that she does on the screen just that someone that has that much sex has to be really good at it.

In the right situation I would marry a pornstar, but only after my moms was dead…if she found out I married a pornstar, it would kill her.

[quote]steveo wrote:
At some point in her adult life she said;
“Yes, I will have sex with strangers for money, and allow myself to be taped while doing this.”
I’m definately not one to hold someone’s past against them, but you would want this woman to raise your children? Dating her for the fun of dating her is one thing, but when you’re going to marry someone, you have to think, “This woman will teach my daughter how to act…” Think about that for a minute.

[/quote]

So your implying that just because she is a pornstar she wouldn’t be a good mother? This world needs to open up their minds and realize that being a pornstar is just a job. A job that sells well. Sure most parents would prefer their daughter be something else but if your daughter grows up and decides she wants to do porn for a living are you going to think less of her or love her less? Think about it.

[quote]slimjim wrote:
In the right situation I would marry a pornstar, but only after my moms was dead…if she found out I married a pornstar, it would kill her.[/quote]

either way, your mom is dead, so wtf is the difference?