Damn near impossible for me not to get emotional and all SJW about the topic you’re putting up here.
But I really don’t give a shit what anyone says… A 14 year old isn’t emotional mature enough to make those choices, and it’s extremely FUBAR that anyone could or will justify it.
14 & 16? Sure. Still ripe for significant issues, but not horrid on it’s face, and it’s going to happen.
14 & 19? That 19 year old is bordering on some seriously delinquent behavior, however mental & emotional developmental timelines differ, and they could be relatively the same level of maturity.
14 & 30? That 30 year old has issues. Plane and fucking simple.