From a woman’s perspective - I’d like to give you some encouragement but you are probably beating a dead horse. Short of taking advantage of her when she’s passed out, you’re going to have to be content where you’re at - or seek intensive counseling. Most folks don’t change. I was married to a man who thought oral sex was awful and only liked the missionary position. No premarital sex for him either. That was taboo. After we got married, I tried everything - books, counseling, etc. Nothing worked. He thought I was a sex-crazed fool and there was something wrong with me! (I told him to go to work and mention to his buddies that his wife wanted sex all the time and see what kind of line formed on our sidewalk!!) Fortunately, I got out of that marriage after more than 20 years of his anal-retentive behavior and don’t intend to ever marry again unless they show me up front that they want to spend lots of time doing the horizontal mambo or variations thereof. I will drive the car before I sign the lease. Good luck! I hope you come up with something!
Donna I am a young guy, and you would be about 38-45 right about now… anywho you probably have money since you’ve worked for about 20 years or so. Point is lets get married, I will sex you to death as per your wishes then you will leave me all your money plus insurance, at this point I will be about 50 or so (27 years from now) during which time I will grieve your passing then marry a 20 year old. She will then sex me to death and the cycle of life will continue…
Call one of her friends, tell her to show your wife what to do(with you of course)… It’s fun for the whole family. Or you can do the simple sappy shit and tell her what you want to try and all that shit, but the other way is much more fun.
You are most likely approaching the subject wrong. Try the website sexuality.org it has some very good pointers on how to appoach the mound etc. Also checkout a book called the Guide to getting it on. Huge book tons of info it also covers some ideas of how to appoach the subject. I certainly hope you didn’t tell her about your past lovers and how open they are?!! If you did you have a long road ahead of you. That statement alone can destroy her confidence. Anywho check out those resource and let us know how it goes.
#1.) your not stuck where you are at. Do your homework. You must be persistant but take small steps. You may think this sounds bad but rent some porno’s. Find what SHE likes to watch and advance from there.
Take her out on dates/dinner where she dresses up. Get her looking sexy to the point others start looking at her (i.e. miniskirts, high heels…etc). If others turn their heads she will then believe she’s sexy. Start talking during sex…talk a lot…dirty talk. Find out what turns her on and DO IT! Get her some toys to experiment with. Be patient but persistant. Get her some viacreme (male version of Viagra). you don’t need a prescription for it either and you can get it on the net if you need privacy. What size clothes does she wear? What size shoes? If you don’t know find out. Don’t ask her, find out for yourself and go buy her some sexy stuff. Get more porno. Keep it moving…I know what I’m talking about here. 5 times a week my wife says, “are you comming to bed…wink wink” …all this after
22 years. MAKE IT FUN