Perhaps if you had spent some time over on FA you would be a little more reluctant to send anyone over there. There's some good info over there, I wouldn't trust a newbie to wade through all of their bullshit just to find the good bits.
Now, I'm not saying that my friends that are BBers don't train differently from the way that I do, but there are far more similarities than differences. Things like squat, bench, deadlift, rows and OHP are the sort of exercises that are not only going to make you strong, but also help develop that x-frame.
I can only speak for myself, but I don't feel that my experience in the weight room is so limited and sports specific that I can't give a new lifter advice about things other than powerlifting. Bodybuilders and figure girls are not the only ones who care about fat loss and building this muscle group or that.
And as far as the OP's "I want to slim my inner thighs" comment goes, I interpreted that as a reference to that little chunk of inner thigh fat that most women have. And if she wants that gone someone should be telling her about the important role diet will play into fixing that problem area. NOT discouraging her from squatting or deadlifting because it can lead to hypertrophy of the adductors.