You should try not to use such terms… it can come across a bit like “billy no mates”. Something like what duke said " hey I had a great time, we should do it again soon". You could also add in " will check my calendar to see when I will be available", this points out that you have much more going on in life than sitting waiting around to be txed. Men love a chase, sometimes the harder the catch the more interest generated.
The best thing you could do is focus on improving yourself, keep up the training, go out with friends, get your hair done, just enjoy being single and independent. Somewhere down the line out of the blue something will happen. If he had more interest he would be instigating things a lot more, thinking about you often and txing, clearly he has other things going on that are higher priority than you. I know if I fancied a girl and I was interested, she would be constantly on my mind and I would be making it a priority to make sure she knew.
I mean he drove 45 minutes in a snow storm to hang out with me in my sons closet until 2am I think I should feel somewhat settled that his interest level is fairly close to what mine is for him
Not necessarily. You’re projecting yourself onto him. Some men are like you and go all in all at once. Other men are more circumspect, preferring to go slowly and let things develop at a more incremental pace, especially when they’re juggling career, potential house buying, and other huge life choices (like deciding if someone is marriage/life partner potential.)
Time will tell which this guy is. Driving 45 minutes in a snow storm shows interest and persistence
I should also note that he is divorced and 6 yrs older than me.
Who is to say what happened with his marriage doesnt make him a very cautious person . I dont know what it’s like to go through a divorce. Maybe if I had, I would want to take things very slowly
I know where you are coming from with this, though I am married 10 years. A lot has changed on the dating scene. I’m actually trying to get out, the opposite lol
It only takes 2 mins to send a text message. There not many men I know takes it that slow if they are interested, though being divorced changes things a bit. Maybe he is just being extra cautious.
See, I think this way too. I feel like I’m trying to stay delusional by telling myself all these possibilities, but the truth of the matter is I’ve made every single move.
Truth of the matter is, you’re a beautiful and interesting woman. Any man that doesn’t see that is missing out. Their loss not yours. You deserve a man that will take the lead and make you feel wanted. Not some boy that will leave you wondering where you stand. Just my opinion.
You’re such a cool chick, into weights, your kid, your job, very passionate about life and trying to find yourself.
Who wouldn’t love you?
So texted J when I got home last night, thanked her for a nice evening, and she texted back today, good movie, good company (we saw A Star is Born, great movie).
I’ve come to realize we’re not a good fit. But it has taken me four months to figure this out and I am so glad that we are friends rather than something more because pulling back is going to be much easier than if we were intimate.
Slow is good. And trust me, she is very attractive, and we might still end up as something more than friends, but I am so glad that we took the time to get to know each other.
You rock Spock, know in your heart that you do and let the bees come to you.
Maybe I’m wider but less defined which is fine
I dont really need to be wide or defined
LoL
I just love backing!!!
BYe
Oh edit to add
I was still pretty tired and 185 felt heavy and I was worried how shit would go, but I gave myself a pep talk, told myself it was mind over matter and to move that shit fast. 230 felt easier then 185