Well, this goes back to your original thesis, which was (restating): “what do the kind of boys I like find attractive.
Well, nice Jewish boys like nice Jewish girls. It’s pretty much a package deal. Now nice Jewish girls come in all colors and races, including various Asians. So back to that thesis. But I knew many a gentile/Jewish college couple at MIT that were great together, but who broke up when it was time for marriage. That’s a giant issue.
Regarding military men, they are the type that live their country and want to serve her. So they like others who serve. I didn’t do ROTC in the States, but I suspect you can participate and not ultimately join the military. A trial run, so to speak. But since that’s your target, you’d have to be the kind of girl who wants to serve others above yourself. That could be being a doctor or whatever, not necessarily a soldier.