In a nutshell…12 years ago boy meets girl, the have great sex, boy takes in girls 2 1/2 year old son, boy and girl move in together and have a baby girl. They then marry and wife stays home with kids. After nine years wife goes to work to help out financially. 35 year old Wife meets younger single women and begins going out and develops a binge drinking habit that has her coming home once or twice a week between 3AM and 5AM. She would brag about going to male strip bars and other low class bars and having guys hit on her askign her if she wanted to fuck. Husband puts foot down and wife agrees to stop. Two months ago wife comes home next mornign at 8AM after claiming she passed out in a restuarant parking lot.
Well, since then I asked my wife to leave. She agreed and she claimed she hated me anyways and that she only drank as she was so miserable with me; that it is not her fault she does not have the sex drive I have and if I need sex to get it somewhere else. She even agreed to leave BOTH kids (actually she wanted to take her son with her but he wanted to stay with me as I have been the one takign care of him when his mother was out partying. He is 14 and saw it all and is not pleased with his mother these days, needless to say.)
She has said I can keep the equity in the house so that she does not have to be responsible for any loans or debt. She also said I can have comlpete custody of the kids yet refuses to pay any child support. That is fine with me as long as they get to remain in their home and not be dragged through court proceedings.
The kids and me are now moving forward without wife/mother. She comes and goes in their lives fro time to time even though she lives and works five minutes away.
I had wanted to work this out even though I was unhappy, yet after reading a past Atomic Dog I realized this person was destructive in my life as well as my kids. She now lives in a trashy apartment but bought a new car with leather interior (rememebr, she does not pay child support). She lives check to check and said if she could not afford car she would geta second job. She got a tattoo on her right shoulder and plans to get more. She has shown up to a number of her kids soccer games hung over.
Both kids have taken the situation better than I thought, but then again they remained with the stable parent. Or, as my 9 year old daughetr wopuld put it, “She’s out with her friends again? When is it goign to be family night?”