[quote]Professor X wrote:
So I’ve been very unmotivated the last month, haven’t really been going to the gym as much feeling down eating garbage etc etc. Do you people think it’s from just being down from all the stuff that happened with my ma?
Since August my mom has been in and out of the hospital from congestive heart failure, she was coded (breathing tube and sedated)for 2 months and they brok eher neck. She’s been home since Dec wheelchair bound and she just isn’t getting much better she’s now at Spaulding Rehab in Ma after getting a huge intestional infection.
Add all this to the fact that the government has attached my pay from not paying my my student loans(my fault and at least their getting paid), and just the whole being lonely can’t really go out with my ma in a bad way. Is this leading to my lack of motivation for anything?
I mean yesterday I got up at noon and it took me a long time to just shower and go to the movies. A little help please folks
I think you already know the answer to this. I personally tend to focus even more during periods of extreme stress. I am the type of person who is in the gym the night before board exams or who spent an extra hour studying when my grandmother got sick.
I understand that all people aren’t like that and I was actually going to make a post about something I had been thinking about that may contribute to how people deal with situations in their lives.
As far as your personal situation, I have been in similar. Your motivation has to be internal. Until it is, even the most poetic motivator couldn’t do much to change your mentality.
In your personal situation, you need to find a way to refocus, or rather, reevaluate your goals and what you are doing to actually reach them. If your goals are ambiguous like so many seem to be on this site, it will make it harder to find your way back to solid ground.
It isn’t until you figure out what your next steps are going to be (even in the event of the worst scenario) that you will find your way out of whatever depression of feeling of hopelessness you may be dealing with.[/quote]
Wise words, Professor.
To the OP, I am sorry about what you and your mom are going through. It definitely sounds like you are depressed and is quite natural to feel considering what is going on.
An antidote to the feelings of depression is working out. It isn’t a cure all but I know it helps to keep me on a somewhat even level when things are going bad. I also went through some things and didn’t train for quite sometime, for a number of reasons, and it was a mistake. If training is important to you, don’t give it up. Switch to a maintenance program perhaps, just keep the ritual going.
I wish you and your mom the best.