I work out at a university gym, lots of newbies.
I asked some young guys benching next to my head to put on some collars, very politely (collars are the rule and its usually enforced which is good for newbies I think) They looked at me I went through another set.
They hadnt put the collars on, this time I was a bit more aggresive but still polite and they did it. Funny thing is I felt like a jerk. Same as when this kid walks ( its hard to describe) between me, the squat rack and the wall to get a bar in the corner, his head passes inches from the end of the moving bar.
I figured he is young, new to the gym so I very politly told him not to take a chance like that. He could have bumbed me and if I lost control of the weight it could have injured him.
I actually was concerned about his safety as well as my own. He looks at me and with serious attitutde tells me whatever buddy I was fine.
So I told him forget it and that if he ever comes near me again I was gonna knock his ass out. I was just pissed and not trying to be a dick, and again felt bad.
Man when I think of how badly you could have been injured it pisses me off. You could have been killed or worse! Fuck man. Glad your ok.