I have tried tongkat Ali and really didnt notice a difference for the cost.
I am however leaning toward giving RedKat a try.
That said I think your #1 issue should be getting your diet under control, then your training. After you nail these then move to something like the RedKat I mentioned that has a lot of real world results behind it.
I’m currently using tongkat ali at around 700-1000mgs a day split into an am & pm dose. I definitely notice an increase in libido within h1/2 an hr to an hr after I take it. In addition to that I’m more aggresive and alert in the weight room + while I haven’t had any blood work done I think it helped me in PCT from a 10 weeker. I do think that an anti estrogen should be used in conjuction with it.
I’ve used RED KAT with good success. I was shutdown from a cycle and my PCT consisted of nolva, clomid, and arimidex. My balls came back but my libido didn’t. I started using the Redkat, at the standard dose, and didn’t notice anything. When I doubled the dose, my libido returned.