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#1

I found this list out of an article in Good Housekeeping from 1955. A good wife knows her place!

My how things have changed! This was just 50 years ago.

The Good Wife's Guide


Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready, on time for his return. This is a way of letting him know that you have been thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they come home and the prospect of a good meal (especially his favorite dish) is part of the warm welcome needed.

Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so you'll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people.

Be a little gay and a little more interesting for him. His boring day may need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it.

Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives.

Gather up schoolbooks, toys, paper, etc. and then run a dust cloth over the tables.

Over the cooler months of the year you should prepare and light a fire for him to unwind by. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too. After all, catering for his comfort will provide you with immense personal satisfaction.

Prepare the children. Take a few minutes to wash the children's hands and faces (if they are small), comb their hair and, if necessary, change their clothes. They are little treasures and he would like to see them playing the part. Minimize all the noise. At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer or vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet.

Be happy to see him.

Listen to him. You may have a dozen important things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first ? remember, his topics of conversation are more important than yours.

Make the evening his. Never complain if he comes home late or goes out to dinner, or other places of entertainment without you. Instead, try to understand his world of strain and pressure and his very real need to be at home and relax.

Your goal: Try to make sure your home is a place of peace, order and tranquillity where your husband can renew himself in body and spirit.

Don't greet him with complaints and problems.

Don't complain if he's late home for dinner or even if he stays out all night. Count this as minor compared to what he might have gone through that day.

Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or have him lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him.

Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soothing and pleasant voice.

Don't ask him questions about his actions or question his judgment or integrity. Remember, he is the master of the house and as such will always exercise his will with fairness and truthfulness. You have no right to question him.

A good wife always knows her place


#2

Christ. No wonder there were so many skeletons in the closet and infidelity issues then. The only thing that's changed is the divorce rate. I think I'd go crazy in that era.


#3

I would say this is great advice for both spouses personally.


#4

Funny thing is, I don't think things have changed at all. That is, I don't think it ever really was like this. Except for on the TV shows in that era.


#5

Holy shit, Rockscar! What a gem!

I'm getting married in a few months time, so I'll be sending this to my fiancee. She's got plenty to learn! :slight_smile:

I think my wedding gift to her will be Gourmet Nutrition, John Berardi's recipe book.

"Honey, when I come home tonight, drunk out of my skull, after spending the evening with my loser friends at the titty bars, I want me a nice P+F meal, with some veggies on the side. But don't you try an' give me no high GI, starchy carbs like you did last Wednesday, or I'll have to hit you again and strap you to the reverse hyper machine. Oh, and go easy on the flaxseed oil, OK? It doesn't mix well with the whisky."


#6

Yeah-I don't think so either-certainly not to that degree. I know my grandparent's marriage was a partnership. The only difference is that you could never print an article like that today, unless it was satire.


#7

Man, that's what I need! I could get used to that.


#8

ROTF LMAO

Brilliant!!!


#9

Well, for one, the article in question is a great example of the constraint of conformism that was rampant at that time. And people were expected to uphold the ideals presented to mainstream society by the media. It was the 50's by god.

Every one I've talked to who lived in their prime during this time holds the view that its better to hold onto a crumbling relationship than to let go, heal, and move on. Just stuff it down your throat and never let it out. "Don't air your dirty laundry." This completely misses the point of life and living.


#10

Priceless!!


#11

You know what's the only thing worse than a male chauvanist pig?
A woman who won't do what she's told.

Ouch! Sorry honey

-folly


#12

I have seen this article before and I really like it. I'm sure it pisses a lot of people off, but I think there is a great message there. That message is that a happy marriage is one based on servanthood. That would apply to both spouses. While the specifics of the advice are a bit outdated, I would say the attitude of that wife is one that many people could learn from - myself included.

JP Bear - happily married for five years, with many more to come


#13

Roles by sex do not really exist anymore. In other words, today we have couples who have carrers and each couple must define their respective roles based on mutual understanding and giving. There is no media defined sex role any longer.

I thought I'd toss it out since I found it funny because life can not be like this, and who could ever be happy living by a societies defenition of a standard household.

Marriage is a 2 way street.

I'm greeted with problems immediately upon entry into my house. It's the girls fighting, wife pissed that I did not clean or do something...etc.

I do a lot of cooking now too. I make sure I share in cleaning and doing dishes, watching the kids, baths for the kids etc.


#14

Just so long as the "servitude" is equal.


#15

TC actually printed this in one of his
Atomic Dog articles:

http://www.t-nation.com/readTopic.do?id=462317

Hilarious. I was looking through an old book I found on the shelf on how to raise an obedient child and it was totally Nazi. It's scary how desperate people used to be to conform to societal norms.


#16

This reminds me of TC's Atomic Dog from 1999 called, "How to Please Your Man."

http://www.t-nation.com/readTopic.do?id=462317


#17

Now this one has more detail!


#18

Fuck that shit! If anyone really followed this I'd find myself a nice little househusband to look after me.

"Are you questioning me bitch? Make yourself useful and go dust something!"


#19

Do you really believe there was more infidelity in the 50's than today? I think you watch too much television.


#20

So, you were pregnant with half of your children, and your wife was pregnant with the other half? Did you split the breastfeeding duties as well?