[quote]PonceDeLeon wrote:
buckeye girl wrote:
PonceDeLeon wrote:
Honestly, I can’t believe people give a shit so much about stuff like this. Once you date people with chronic illnesses or go through really severe ups and downs with major life crises, stuff like this just becomes trivial.
Just one of the many things that gives people social anxiety. How sad.
OP:
Find a chick that really digs you. I guarantee she wont’ give a fuck once she’s with you.
Sweet!! That means if I don’t feel like shaving my legs for 3 weeks, my boyfriend can’t say anything cause that would mean he doesn’t care about me!
It’s stupid and incredibly naive to think that your significant other doesn’t care about you because they want you to address basic hygiene issues.
See, now you’re just challenging me in hopes of getting spanked. I can’t blame you, there’s quite a long line for you to join.
And no, when my exes didn’t shave or wax their legs, it didn’t kill it for me. I still buried their faces into the mattress and had my way with them
I didn’t imply that the OPPOSITE of my statement holds - that they don’t care if they want you to remove hair - but that if they DO care, they all but don’t give a damn about such trivial things.
Chemistry > preferences
At least half of the girls I’ve been with all never liked facial hair, and I always have it, and once we were together it was something they’d play with.
It’s funny to see people cater to the preferences of those they want; in reality, that’s not what gets you in, because if they are into you they won’t think: “Well, too bad he has a goatee! Otherwise, he’s perfect. Time to move on!”
Nobody’s that stupid.
And besides, by the time you’re naked with someone, it’s usually well established that you’re into them, so seeing that the chick’s legs aren’t perfectly smooth isn’t exactly going to undo the momentum of attraction that got us alone and naked in the first place.[/quote]
Meh. I just think it’s stupid that there are guys on here saying that he needs a new girlfriend because she gives him a hard time about shaving his back. Your post kind of followed that general theme.
Maybe I’m misinterpreting the meaning of “she gives me shit every time” but I read that as a little teasing like “I just shaved your back last week. You’re like a damn chia pet” before she goes to help. And that’s hardly a reason to break up, or to even suggest that she doesn’t care, as some did.
As far as grooming and hygiene go, life gets in the way sometimes. I’m certainly not arguing that, but we aren’t talking about that. Nor are we talking about attracting mates.
My point is that I expect my man to take care of himself, and I intend to do the same. “Taking care” can include anything from not turning into a fatass, and bathing frequently enough that people can stand to be around you, to keeping up with body hair maintenance. Instead of seeing that as being “trivial”, I see that as respecting oneself and, to a degree, one’s partner.
Finally, I don’t think you’d be saying that wanting a guy to keep up with the shaving (if that’s the hair removal method of choice) is trivial, if you knew how awful it felt to have an itchy, stubble covered body rub up against you during the deed. That’s more than enough to distract from how good everything else is feeling.