Did you successfully complete the V-Diet you talked about doing last year?
Is your profile info current/accurate? 6'2", 218 pounds, bodyfat "no clue, probably over 30%"?
3,000 calories over 9 hours is not as difficult as you were making it. It's about food choice and timing. Hell, worst comes to worst, hit Chipotle's for lunch. Turns out the average order is over 1,000 calories:
I agree with the guys, I think you should work on the basic-basics before trying (another) unique and specific method of eating. I suggest breakfast, lunch, dinner, and a shake when you lift. Call me crazy, but that's just about as basic as it gets.
What's your pre-workout? Is is just an energy boosting thing or is it peri-workout nutrition with protein and carbs?
I'm thinking two shakes within 45 minutes might be filling you up too much, too soon. The fiber in the oats soon after all that liquid probably isn't helping either. I'd switch the bar and first shake, depending on what's in the shake.
At your size, peanut butter and jelly sandwiches are not an option. Insert Gunny Hartman quote from Full Metal Jacket.
If what you were doing previously was working, and the new method was giving you trouble, then yep, right call.