We're giving our thoughts on your protein shake. That's all.
Personally, I also think it's too high in fat for a post-workout shake. But part of that depends on the rest of your diet, especially what you're eating pre-workout.
Yep, as a milk alternative, rice or almond milk (even goat milk or Lactaid milk) would be better bets.
Nope. Unprocessed soy is fine in moderation. Soy milk (and other soy food-substitutes like soy burgers and soy jerky) is processed beyond the point of being similar to its natural nutritious state.
There have been a lot of valid points made about soy, particularly the phytoestrogrens. However, Berardi had a good article that examined some of the misunderstandings, and valid criticisms, about it:
Bottom-line worth repeating: Whole food sources of soy are fine in moderation. Processed versions of soy should be avoided.
Then, like the Starting Strength program we were all talking about in your other thread, do it. You're really giving the impression that you want to do what you want to do and you clearly don't like being challenged, so... yes, soy milk is fine for you. Carry on.
With that line of thinking, why bother following a decent training program? You're just going to lift some weights three days a week, so why make a big deal about the exercises, sets, or reps. Go in, do what you feel like, then go home.
Dude, on some level, it's those little things that all add up down the road and snowball into progress. Half-assing your training or half-assing your nutrition will give you half-assed results, if that.