Things That Piss You Off

I’ve been using those and it helps a little but eh. I might go to the doctor and try get some meds

I don’t know if “let down” is the right phrase haha

When people use the work “lucky” when they talk about what you have in life.

Example. “You are lucky that you have savings in the bank, I don’t so I can’t always afford things straight away”

How is that luck, its down to effort and sacrifice and hours and hours of hard work, plus making a decision to live below our means to be in a better financial position. In no way is it luck.

The same person who said the above has said I’m lucky to have many other things, again all down to choices I’ve made or hard work I have put in. They genuinely believe they are unlucky to not have the same things or be in the position they are in, again it’s all down to there own shitty decisions.

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Ewww that’s nasty

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luck is simply the intersection where preparation meets opportunity…

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See also: “We’ve been praying for you, God is great!” This happened just recently with my wife and I after seeing the doc and using science, and money (our savings, ironically enough, ha). Had a gal tell me, “God finally answered our prayers for you! See how powerful it is!” I get it…but, personally, I’m thanking the doctor that was smart enough to refer us to the specialist who, in turn, quickly pinpointed the problem and treated it.

Disclaimer: This is not an attempt to bag on religion.

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For people who aren’t winning in life and haven’t figured out goal oriented behaviour, success seems like luck or magic.

You wanted to be fit, so you buckled down and did what it took over a long time. Same thing with saving some dough, you made a plan and executed. 40% of Americans haven’t saved even $1,000. And roughly 40% are overweight or obese.

They don’t see the thousands of hours of working out you did or skipped pizzas. All they see is the result and then they say “lucky!” Because it lets then be okay with being mediocre.

Don’t get mad at bitter backbiting people who hate your success, feel bad for them.

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Kind of the opposite end but still perfect:

“Son, you don’t have bad luck. The reason bad things happen to you is because you’re a dumbass.” -Red Forman, my hero.

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I’m sorry tough things happened to you, been there. It is about whether you stay down when you get knocked on your ass. You can either stay down there, or try and claw your way back up.

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That’s something that is out of my control. So yes luck does come into it that situation.

In terms of the situation I mentioned in my first post and how it’s not lucky I have savings that still holds true. I had savings built up from making many sacrifices, not buying stuff I want, budgeting well, not going on holidays and so on. This money was for a deposit for a new house, rather unlucky you could say that a surgeon accidentally cut my vas leading to us having to spend almost every penny we had on fertility treatment. What did we do? Cut back even further, worked even harder and started saving again. The money didn’t build back up through luck. It’s not like we haven’t had bad luck, I understand what you mean that sometimes things don’t go your way and it’s not always down to poor decisions, some times it is. In the same way that just because someone appears to be in a better place than you it’s not always luck.

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Oh and you really you don’t need to erase your post, your opinion is respected and I’m sorry you have had some hard times.

The comment I made about shit decisions was aimed specifically at the person I was talking about in the post and know fully that life can be very shit to people who make good decisions and try hard. This person is not one of those people.

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You know why I lost my job? Because a another company bought out the one I worked for. Paired me with an awful excuse for a human being. He was telling me stories of how he smuggled young girls across the border inside tanker trucks. And how they would do ANYTHING once he got them out.
He told one of his stories in front of some customers I had been working with for years. The story was about how he took his wife down to have her spayed. But there was nothing wrong with her hands, mouth, and ass.
I felt this was inappropriate and reprted him to my new supervisor, he did nothing, the “stories” continued. I reported him to the next higher up, nothing, “stories” continued. I went one higher up. Three days later I got canned.
So yes, I guess it was a shitty decision. I should have just kept my mouth shut and put up with the nonsense on a daily basis. Honestly I wanted to kill him. Sleazy, freaky, pedophile bastard!

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You did the right thing, your conscience is clear even if it made things worse for you. That makes you a good person, more people need to speak up about the wrongs they see. Could you get the police and authorities involved?

Now if you told me you was unlucky to have lost your job, yet turned up late everyday and stole from the till I would be right to disagree with the unlucky bit.

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Police said his word against mine. I didn’t let him grope me so I couldn’t sue either.

The whole thing has made a better person so at least I have that.

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Good god, that’s horrific. Sorry for the crappy timing on my quote, I may have completely missed it if you guys were discussing any of that earlier.

Well the quote does fit. I was a dumbass!

I would go more selfless than dumbass. Even if the police say not much can be done at this point, It only takes another person to raise concerns and maybe warning bells may start ringing. You did your bit and for that you should be holding your head up high. I don’t believe in God, but I do believe in karma.

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I’m with you here. We skip quite a bit to sock away cash; very little eating out and zero vacations. As a result, we are fairly comfortable without killing ourselves working like crazy and needing large incomes.

Much of this is a bulwark against the legit bad luck that can be experienced by anyone at any time regardless of the good decisions we make; job loss, illness etc.

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It’s surprising that many people do not grasp this. I have a friend who is not great with money and lives right on the edge of their means. Expensive tv package, phone contacts, everything on finance and so on. If something crops up its a massive deal. But when they come into a bit of cash, example a £3000 ppi refund, instead of thinking “I will save this for a rainy day” it’s “Oh I’m going to use it to update the bathroom” (read perfectly good bathroom)

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Definitely my new favourite word. I’m going to work that into as many conversations as I can this week haha Hope I pronounce it correctly.