Yeah, all good point guys. I was actually really fukin bummed out about it for the rest of the day! Then something kinda weird happened, well not that weird. This guy I’d seen and spoken to once or twice before in my gym happened to be just starting shoulders when I got to the gym and asked if I wanted to lift with him.
I actually approached him first awhile back becaus he clearly knows what he’s doing. Not many guys use drop sets, rest pause and other “advanced techniques” so to speak in my gym. Plus he’s probably a good 2-3 inches shorter then me but outweighs me by a solid 20 lbs of pure muscle. He’s well connected from the sound of things in the whole bb’ing scene in NJ and he’s actually been training with one of the IFBB pros featured in the current Battle for the Mr. Olypmia video. Not going to say wich one but he’s big LOL.
It seems like we have alot in common, ironically he’s in LE and I’m trying to get into LE in september. Plus he trains with his girl and I can tell from their back and forth we’ve got a bit in common. Hence it appears I’ve found a training partner that fits the requirements of
- Being much stronger then me.
- Being much more muscular then me.
- Being a decent number of years older/more experianced then me.
- Being VERY consistent in the gym and willing to put a foot up my ass.
Plus he’s a nice dude. SO what the fuck does this have to do with the original topic? Well the whole thing with my old man had me thinking wtf is the point really. He said something along the lines of “What is the purpose? So you can have bigger muscles. It shouldn’t really be that important.” Now mind you this is from a man who has been an athelete and a VERY good one his entire life.
When I first began lifting he would occasionaly pop down into the basement and easily bang out 300+ on the bench without ever really training with weights. Granted he worked as a plumber doing big jobs = big pipes all day long. So I can see where for him muscle doesn’t have the same value it does to me. Wich is something I’ll most likely just leave at that.
Now back to the potential new training partner. I don’t know much of shit about this guy. In fact for all I know he could be the worst person to train with, waist my time, and turn out to be a total asshole. I’ve lifted with him 2 times now so that would be a shock but I’ve been wrong before. Still I find it sort of strange that in one aspect the man who’s strength, opinion and persona I had respected (and still do) so much my entire life has changed. And at the same time this guy who has the same profession as myself, the same sense of humor and attitude, and more drive then anyone I’ve ever trained with suddenly asks me to start training with him.
I’m not going to get to far up my own ass about this other then it’s strange how life plays out sometimes. Clearly my old man will always hold top level as someone to emulate my life from, as IMO any father who’s done his job correct shoudl be. However, one can’t help but feel a sense of discomfort when you begin to realize that not everything they say or do is gold (at least not for you). Of course this isn’t the first time I’ve realized this in my life. In fact I’m sure those of you who have few years on me are reading this and smiling.
Still it’s a tuff thing to come to terms with, fortunatley I’ve spoke to my dad since and while he expressed some concern he was otherwise his usual self, a good man.
BTW, he’s been on HRT of awhile now. The topical cream. Although I think I mentioned that. ALso for the guy who mentioned the heroin thing, funny you mentioned it. My little brother who has been in and out of rehab for dope going on at least 3-4 years now is back at home with my parents.
Soo you can only imagine the overall stigma/view my dad has on drugs or injecting anything into your body that changes you. Not the same things AT all but still I’m sure you can see where he’s coming from.