This is a topic Iâ??ve thought about intensely for a few years now (since my mid-30s; Iâ??m 39 now). I personally experience libido in waves, which I believe is dependent on my hormonal state (no great revelations there!). After losing serious flab and getting into training and good diet, I have experienced more libido highs than lows â?? a fact past girlfriends could attest to!
Iâ??ve experimented with lots of training systems, e.g. HIT, HFT, etc; and lots of eating systems, e.g. keto, high carb, IF, etc. Iâ??m also a bit of a supplement junkie and have used/still use trib, d-aspartic acid, mega dosing of vit D, etc.
Of course, when youâ??re stressed and/or sleep deprived your libido suffers. However, these variables aside it can be pretty difficult to nail just what works and what doesnâ??t. To use one crude example, last year I took the best part of 3 months off from training due to my lower back. During this time I did zero physical activity (I was also single at the time). I also decided to eat what I wanted. I retained enough self-discipline not to binge but I basically ate what I felt like, e.g. cakes, and other junk food. What I experienced almost immediately was a huge surge in libido, often waking up at night with painful erections, the type I havenâ??t had since my teens. This lasted weeks.
All this has led me to the conclusion that the greatest variable affecting libido is - your partner(s). When you physically connect with someone your sex drive soars. My current girlfriend of the last 6 months is a great example of that. She is one of the few partners Iâ??ve had who can give me the closest thing Iâ??ve had to a multiple organism. I have been able to climax only to be physically ready for more sex within approximately 5 minutes, with sessions often lasting around 3 hours.
So while all of the above are variables affecting libido, my take is that the main variable in a relatively healthy body â?? is actually someone elseâ??s body! Just my take.