I am 100% in the camp of mind your own business. Most of us do the best we can. Best is almost never good enough but you learn and hope to respond better next time. I do believe that you need to be a parent to truly understand what it means to parent. It’s like any other situation. You can make hypothetical responses to a number of imagined situations but until you actually live that moment, you can never truly know how you will act.[/quote]
Actually no, most mothers hit their kids reactively, regret it and then continue to escalate. this is a matter of FACT based on research:
This is precisely because they don’t work out the deep seated emotional turmoil within them and WAIT until they “actually live that moment”. If you don’t know whether you’ll smack your kid or remain non-violent when you’re overloaded with stress, YOU HAVE NOT PREPARED and that is NOT THE SAME as “doing the best we can”.
If you fail a test because you didn’t prepare or you fail to perform CPR correctly because you didn’t prepare or you fail to prepare in ANY other situation in life and someone gets hurt, The blame is SQUARELY on you.
ONLY parents get a blanket pass at failing to prepare and hurting their kids and THAT is total immoral bullshit.
Agree to disagree.
No the way this works in the real world is you have evidence and/or a rational counter-arguments or you’re wrong.
“agree to disagree” is what dishonest and immoral people use as a crutch when they have no relevant evidence.
Here’s another argument for you. You’re a bad person because you apologize for the lack of preparation of parents and subsequent violence against children.
My observation of the real world is that most honest and thoughtful people aren’t overburdened with the sense of knowing better than anyone else.
‘Agree to disagree’ is a polite way of disengaging with someone else who seems dogmatic and feels the need to convert. You will not change my world view. Neither will I change yours. We are, therefore left with ‘agree to disagree’.
“overburdened with the sense of knowing better than anyone else.”
This is just a passive aggressive insult.
“seems dogmatic” is also a passive aggressive insult.
From the wikipedia entry"
Dogma is a principle or set of principles laid down by an authority as incontrovertibly true. It serves as part of the primary basis of an ideology or belief system, and it cannot be changed or discarded without affecting the very system’s paradigm, or the ideology itself.
Considering that i liked a huge amount of evidence on which to base my arguments a you wrote…“You will not change my world view. Neither will I change yours.”, who here is being “dogmatic”?
Also, you will in fact change my view on the subject because my conclusion are NOT IN ANY WAY incontrovertible.
All you need to do is provide empirical evidence, a syllogistic argument, anything other than anecdotes and logical fallcies, and I will follow it to wherever it leads.