Suppose you were married to the most beautiful woman in the world. Suppose you loved her more than anything and the most important thing in you life was to make her happy. Suppose you had never cheated on her, and never would cheat on her even if you didn’t love her so much because you’re a man of your word. But you do love her so it’s not even an issue.
Now suppose you were also in love with someone else. Equally beautiful, equally perfect, just not your wife.
It’s not a worry about hurting your wife, because you’d never do that. The problem is it’s driving you insane. You see, you have to spend at least ten to twelve hours a day, often more time than you spend with your wife, with this other woman in fairly intimate circumstances and getting away from that is just not an option. The emotional conflict is starting to screw up your sleep, your work, your workout, your school, everything.
How in the hell do you make those feelings go away???