I have a stepson who is six and another that is three.
The three year old is wonderful. He listens well and does what he is told. He genuinly wants to be a good kid he is very helpful, almost to the point of being a hinderance. All in all this kid is great. He has his moments when he acts like a three yr old and throws a fit but I can usually bring him out of it by sending him to his room.
The six yr old is a different story. He is pretty intelligent but he uses his intellect to manipulate people. He tells us things like his brain knew it was wrong but his body wouldn’t listen when he does things that are against the rules. After he has finished beating on his little brother he feigns an injury and acts like the three yr old started everything. What this little guy doesnt know is that I have been standing there watching it all go down! There are a lot of these examples. His newest thing is to start bawling and throwing a fit whenever he is told NO or if I raise my voice.
My wife caves in and caters to this kid. It is time to come down on him, probably too late actually, and she wont do it. She makes excuses for him and babies him to the point that I dont know how much more I can stand. I know what kind of kid he is going to be if left to his own devices my wife is niave. But then perhaps I am wrong? This may be normal behaivor. This morning he came downstairs, it was too early to get out of bed so I told him to go back to bed. He tells me no and then starts blubbering. My wife makes promises that if he does then he will get to do something fun blah blah.
If I would have told my parents no when they told me to do something my ass would have been sore for a few hours. Instead this kid gets rewarded?
I am to the point where I am either going to stop trying to be a father to him or I am going to leave completely and let someone else deal with it. One of the problems is if I let him turn out to be a shitty person then he will corrupt the three yr old. We also have a baby girl together so I dont know what the hell to do!
I dont know maybe this is normal and I am making too much of it??