I have no personal experience with the guy. I saw him play a charity basketball game once but I have never had any firsthand personal contact. I have heard the same things but everything I've heard (in terms of negative stories) is 4th or 5th hand at best. I've lived here my whole life and I don't know a single person that's had a negative run in with the guy. Though the only people I know that have met him are girls I used to date, and none of them have anything bad to say about him.
I've heard from friends of mine that work in bars and nightclubs that he is never seen without his entourage of security, and pretty much the only people that can get near him are attractive females. That is all any of them can say for certain. Everything else is speculation.
Keep in mind that Pittsburgh has a long history of hating QBs. I'm not quite sure why this is, but it is a pattern that has repeated itself numerous times. Bradshaw was called stupid and it was said that he owed all of his success to the defense and running game. He won 4 fucking SBs and Pittsburgh couldn't wait to get rid of him. Neil O'Donnell was run out of town after SB XXX when the same receiver ran the wrong route twice, resulting in 2 INTs that lost the game. Kordell Stewart was run out of town amidst rumors that he was a homosexual. He took us to 2 AFC championship games. Tommy Maddox was run out of town by people dumping garbage on his lawn for about a month straight after he lost a game against Jacksonville in 05. He had us one play away from an AFC championship game in 02. Now Ben wins two rings and people talk shit on him like it's a full time job.
I like living here, but the schizophrenic people and sportswriters in this town drive me insane. Personally, Ben could be the biggest dickbag since dicks were invented and I could care less as long as he wins on Sundays and doesn't hurt anyone off the field.