Strikes me if they are talking bad about their husbands there might be more going on.
I brought this topic up because in the debates about parents/kids/education lately on this thread there is little discussion about the change in family structure over the past several decades. A new version of a parent-at-home to raise kids is having the dad at home. So in some way it is a return to a "traditional" structure - one parent at home to raise the kids - while at the same time a flipping of assumed gender roles.
If having a parent at home to raise the kid is important to the family, does it matter which one is at home? Or is this a return to the idea of a stay-at-home parent is always less than one that works - something I remember being discussed in the 90s as dual income families became norm or expected situation and there was some bristling about non-dual income families.
For me I think it is a cultural twofold issue: The first being that it seems in the US, worker > parent, especially stay-at-home parents. The second as women's roles have increased the is a mixture of guilt & anger (on all sides) in admitting the role of stay-at-home-parent is actually important. It think in some ways it unsettles the foundational assumptions of the feminist and traditional family movements. Add to that the cultural assumptions that guys cannot parent, are perverts for being around kids, and should always have a higher paying job - stay-at-home-dads are unsettling at the least.
Which brings me to the best definition of being a good dad I have heard (which by the way come from my father): A good dad does whatever is necessary for his family. I do not think staying at home to raise the kids deviates from this definition.
Sorry for long post, could not sleep.