Thanks again to everyone who offered words of support and encouragement. After much convincing he decided to tell our daughter that he is leaving for the army on April 8th (just 3 days after her b-day).
I asked her how that made her feel and she, with maturity beyond her 6 short years, replied by saying that it makes her proud of her daddy. I also asked her if she understood how long daddy was going to be gone and she did not really grasp it.
Supposedly he has already been told that he should expect to be deployed as soon as he finishes his job training. Also to be prepared to be gone for approx. a year. I do not take everything he says to be 100% honest as he has exaggerated the truth on numerous occassions in the past.
New dilema…he leaves on the 8th her b-day is the 5th and I already have a trip to Disneyland planned and paid for. We are leaving on the 4th and not returning until the 12th. Should I change my reservations or just let him spend time with her before we leave for Disneyland?