If any guy reading this thread is worried about their game, Read ‘The Game’ by Neil Strauss. Someone recommended it to me as being some sort of miracle pick up artist magic book. I found it very interesting and informative. And I beleive the author also has a show on VH1 now or somthing like that. No intention on stealing the thread, just thought I’d throw this in here.
[quote]TJN713 wrote:
Yet you live in what is in essence one of the biggest college towns in America. [/quote]
I was thinking the exact same thing.
Do well, then go to a four-year college in Boston, you will be set.
Or work the door, easiest way to meet girls I have ever seen, and it can be pretty fun and decent money.
[quote]1000rippedbuff wrote:
The problem is that you are desperate, you don’t think it, but it ends up showing through and it turns girls off. Once you get comfortable with yourself and figure out who you are, things get much easier. It is part of being 20-about 24.[/quote]
im def not desperate. just cause i want sex doesnt mean ill sleep with anyone. im pretty picky about girls… ok just no fat chicks. and ive never heard a girl once said she didnt like me because i appeared desperate.
Go to a real college.
[quote]LiveFromThe781 wrote:
1000rippedbuff wrote:
The problem is that you are desperate, you don’t think it, but it ends up showing through and it turns girls off. Once you get comfortable with yourself and figure out who you are, things get much easier. It is part of being 20-about 24.
im def not desperate. just cause i want sex doesnt mean ill sleep with anyone. im pretty picky about girls… ok just no fat chicks. and ive never heard a girl once said she didnt like me because i appeared desperate.[/quote]
That’s usually not something they tell you. maybe their friends
Being desperate and being creepy go hand in hand in girls’ minds, and they are repelled by creepy things, so don’t be either.
It’s like how girls always seem to come around when you have a girlfriend. You obviously seem less desperate because they don’t have anything immediate to offer you and you talk to them more as humans than as somebody you want to get with.
I find this usually happens when they -know- you have a girlfriend.
[quote]Evolv wrote:
Your problem is you’re in community college. 
Go to a university and you’ll have no problem meeting people and definitly won’t have a problem getting laid. College girls are easy (and that Beastie Boys song pops into mind).
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First, that song isn’t by the Beastie Boys.
Second, this guy is right – go to a university. But you don’t even have to attend. Just go to campus bars and clubs and hang out, you’ll meet plenty of ready and willing college girls. Just network at the universities.
Dood…what happened to your porn star dreams !!!
Serialy, don’t they have like co-ed kick ball or soccer leagues where you live? Join one of them. Take a cooking class. Take a dance class…chicks like salsa dancing.
And for real…I was once in the same exact situation you were in…I went to community college…girls were like girls in high school…they were interested in the guys at real colleges…by the time I got to the real college I was 23 and didn’t really want to party…I started graduate school at 25 and was married with a kid by then…the girls in my classes wanted to fuck me like there was no tomorrow…the older I get and the more successful I get the easier it is to score women…only thing is basically I’m married with kids…see the dilemma?
So…Live ol’ buddy ol’ pal…I know we’ve had our differences, but lately I’m kinda liking you…so…take heart my man…seems like you are on the path to…turning…into…ME !
LL Bean dressing and all !
[quote]LiveFromThe781 wrote:
…and i sucked on a titty or two…[/quote]niceee…nothing really constructive to add… Reminds me of a caddyshack dialogue… Do you use drugs danny?
If you suck at socializing then work on your social skills.
Moving to another city isn’t going to change anything. You will just suck at socializing in an unfamiliar city full of strangers.
And referencing another reply, you are coming across as desperate. Super desperate even and not just about women, about life in general.
Chill, skip a few gym days and hang out with the friends you do have.
[quote]sen say wrote:
Dood…what happened to your porn star dreams !!!
Serialy, don’t they have like co-ed kick ball or soccer leagues where you live? Join one of them. Take a cooking class. Take a dance class…chicks like salsa dancing.
And for real…I was once in the same exact situation you were in…I went to community college…girls were like girls in high school…they were interested in the guys at real colleges…by the time I got to the real college I was 23 and didn’t really want to party…I started graduate school at 25 and was married with a kid by then…the girls in my classes wanted to fuck me like there was no tomorrow…the older I get and the more successful I get the easier it is to score women…only thing is basically I’m married with kids…see the dilemma?
So…Live ol’ buddy ol’ pal…I know we’ve had our differences, but lately I’m kinda liking you…so…take heart my man…seems like you are on the path to…turning…into…ME !
LL Bean dressing and all ![/quote]
LOL…nothing smells quite like irony,does it Sen?
Damn, this is depressing. I am going to the gym and out with friends… Holla at your boy.
Wait… Did you say you want to become a teacher?? Of kids??
shudders
[quote]Jillybop wrote:
Wait… Did you say you want to become a teacher?? Of kids??
shudders[/quote]
I always thought your avatar had you in a shirt and shorts…now I’m thinking it’s a nightie…if it’s shirt and shorts…it’s as hot as I always thougt it was (which is pretty darn)…if it’s a nightie…then…well…I’m beside myself…loss for words so to speak…
ok ok ok … so you live in “Boston” which translates to me that you don’t really live in Boston. If you did live in Boston, and this time of year, there are TONS of young co-eds wandering around. Try living around the Cape man, there’s shit down here for girls. I just moved back here and every time I’ve gone out I question myself if I had made the right decision.
As far as your friends being losers … welcome to the club little homie. None of the friends I came home to have changed a bit. NONE. And I had a large group of friends when I left for the Air Force/Learnin’ …
But, keep your head up man. You’re young, no need to rush. I know it gets frustrating but the best thing you can do is grit your teeth and keep moving forward; especially in the frustrating/difficult times. Keep your eye on the prize man and repeat a mantra that works for you or just kick the shit out of some weights, or let the weights kick the shit out of you … either way.
PS … don’t ever settle for mediocrity in yourself
Yo Live, you’re starting to sound like this guy:
Maybe you 2 can get together and go bowling?
[quote]GDollars37 wrote:
TJN713 wrote:
Or work the door, easiest way to meet girls I have ever seen, and it can be pretty fun and decent money.[/quote]
All the bouncers i know who aren’t fat fucks seem to be able to pull alright girls…don’t expect anything spectacular though.
[quote]sen say wrote:
Dood…what happened to your porn star dreams !!!
Serialy, don’t they have like co-ed kick ball or soccer leagues where you live? Join one of them. Take a cooking class. Take a dance class…chicks like salsa dancing.
And for real…I was once in the same exact situation you were in…I went to community college…girls were like girls in high school…they were interested in the guys at real colleges…by the time I got to the real college I was 23 and didn’t really want to party…I started graduate school at 25 and was married with a kid by then…the girls in my classes wanted to fuck me like there was no tomorrow…the older I get and the more successful I get the easier it is to score women…only thing is basically I’m married with kids…see the dilemma?
So…Live ol’ buddy ol’ pal…I know we’ve had our differences, but lately I’m kinda liking you…so…take heart my man…seems like you are on the path to…turning…into…ME !
LL Bean dressing and all ![/quote]
Best advice.
This is just a stepping stone in your life right now.
Life can change at the drop of a penny(I’ve experienced it many times). Make the most of everyday and stay positive and focused on your goals.
Going to Las Vegas is the stupidest idea i’ve heard in a loooong time.
[quote]FormerlyTexasGuy wrote:
If you suck at socializing then work on your social skills.
Moving to another city isn’t going to change anything. You will just suck at socializing in an unfamiliar city full of strangers.
And referencing another reply, you are coming across as desperate. Super desperate even and not just about women, about life in general.
Chill, skip a few gym days and hang out with the friends you do have. [/quote]
i have like one friend left, i guess the others are mad after a stunt i pulled on Haloween.
i dont see where the super desperate stuff is coming from. i was just expressing the frustrations of not having a whole ton of exciting stuff to do.
lol dude dont compare me to AQ, im not 35 and dont binge drink, i dont drink unless its a social situation.im not suicidal either, lol i feel like the shit i wrote got misinterperted really bad.
now everyone thinks i suck at talking to girls and have no social skills. that isnt the case. its wicked easy for me to talk to girls, i just never meet em anymore, last time i actually went on and did something fun was barhopping on my birthday like 3 weeks ago.
it sucks that i dont have a ton of friends right now but the ones i had before were honestly lame and i only hung out with em cause i had no one else to hang out with. they never even wanted to go out to get girls and if by some chance that happened they dont even know how to approach them unless drunk.
so in the long run i think ill be better off anyway.