OK here’s my story. I have been in a committed relationship with my girlfriend for more than 2 years now. We have lived together for the last year, and our relationship is very strong. I live a very busy schedule and she does too. We make as much time as we can for each other but sometimes it’s just not enough. I work 75 hours per week, (2 jobs) I am a full time student, and I train on a 5 on 1 off split. I leave for waork at 5:30am and return home at 10:00pm Monday through Saturday, and Sunday I’m home after 6:00pm. All that aside, we have a good relationship. This winter I took a mini-mester class and had a really hard time with it. The cutest girl just happened to sit next to me and she pulled an “A” on the first two tests which I out right flunked. So asked her for some tutoring. So she began helping me inbetween classes or even after class we’d sit a dinner and have coffee and get in some studying. Well besides being completely attracted to her, (she is a soccer player with the nicest pair of legs I’ve ever seen.) I began to be really interested in her. I wanted to know her. She is a Bio major with a GPA through the roof, but still an athlete, but not butch, and yet completely feminine. So as you can imagine I really started falling for her, but even after we’d finish studying I’d head home to this great girl whom I love and had been dying to see me.
So now there’s the issue. On this hand, the great girlfriend who I have built a life with, and this other incredible person who I could see myself building a life with. Big problem. So I attempted to strt to distance myself from the other girl. It didn’t work I began to miss her and she let me know that she was missing me too. (I neglected to tell her I had a girlfriend.) Soo then it got a little more serious when she leaned in to kiss me and I went right to it. Then each time we’d me it’d go a bit further. 1st base, 2nd base you name it. Then I’d go home each night and feel like shit. The day I decided I was going to come clean and break it off with her before it went too far, it happened. We were getting a bit heated in my SUV and she began going down on me. The guilt was present but very distant. I reciprocated her favor and before you know it I’m on top of her… big time problem. I can’t get it in! So after what seemed like an eternity I penetrated and what she felt was anything but pleasure. I went home as usual, and jumped in the shower to discover that I was covered in blood. The next day she informed me that I was her first. That ate at me for three days and I contemplated the situation and I decided that I fucked up and that I was not willing to give up my girlfriend. So I finally told the girl that I was a complete smuck, and that I had a girlfriend and it tore me apart. I could even look her in the eyes. She desered so much better then the way I did her. I broke that poor girl. I must have had some true feelings though because it killed me to hurt her. Now back to myquestion. If I know that I fucked up and I want to stay with my girlfriend, most likely forever. Should I tell her. I have gotten a mix of replies to this question. I could get away with her never knowing, but should I tell her. Be a man and come clean. Face the consequences even if it means lose her. Should I do it so close to V-Day? We are planning a 5 day romantic getaway. Should I tell her before or after or never. Fellow T-men, please help me out.