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Sexual Harassment

Hey meand my work partner are in the line of fire on Monday. For sexual harrassment.

I’ll tell you why, and what I want to do.

Man to man Women to man I want to know if I am going to be to ruff on my asshole coworkers, and boss.

My partner I did not know her total story until history Friday Morning. Then I learned to much. More than anyone knows about her other than her boyfriend of seven years.

First of all she’s awsome I respect her work and ethic. We feed off of each other we race during work to see who can be the fastest and the best, and weare the number one crew in quality and quantity.

She’s stronger than 85% of the guys at work. She’s attractive to boot. She’s probably my best friend at work. Smaybe even outside, but we are both with some one else and we respect that. Really she’s liketalking to my sister now.

Anyway everyone at work has been talking, and singing "Secret Lovers"but that is not the big problem it is not helping at all now.

Friday morning one of the guys put a really nasty pic on my seat at work, and it was her truck we were in. It was a pic of a chick getting it up the from behind with a dildo,and someother things

I we both got in at the sametime I thought I saw it first. I crumpled it up,and threw it in the counsil.

She asked was that what I thought it was,I was like uh yeah. She was MAD shaking and ready to cry… I never saw that in her before.

Now at work She has put up with all kinds of verbal shit Guys saying girls are just whores, Guys sharing naked pics of there girl friends that they have in there cell phones before meetings in the office, talking about the size of their tool. They start that the big bosses do not say a word. She just leaves.

This time it was put in her work truck right there I thought that was bullshit and entirely rude. I knew who was most likely to do it. I was going to say something to him at the end of the day. Like dipshit you could have stuck it in my truck and not offended her.

Then she said I had enough of this I was like me to. She said these guys are assholes I put up with twenty years of sexual abuse I can’t handle this one
I have to say something. She exsplained to me how she was forced to look at and do the things in those pictures for some one while growing up. After shemoved out she hooked up with another abuiser

Anyway before the end of the day The guy was suspended, and the boss brought it to my attention that six months ago with a different partner I made sketches on the a company truck.

I was like yeah sorry that was with my old partner will just call him “wad breath” six months ago on my lunch sketching a swimsuit model from one of the magazines that belonged to him in his truck not infront of a girl. NOt infront of anyone, but ratfink “wad breath” who failed to mention his porn on his truck.

The only thing the boss did for her when he talked to her was like how do you feel, oh and chuck I have to talk to you about your pictures.

Now we all have to go through harrassment traing.

This whole thing had nothing to do with rat fink wad breath, but he had to dig up shit from the past and fail to mention his porn he keeps on his work truck.

The thing is his crew used to be number one, but me and my partner unseated him. We are the two newest people.

The whole thing is going to be brought up again Monday morning at 6:30 sharp.

In just can’t take this shit. Some these guys have pics up on the ceilings of there trucks and on the walls. One was walking around the office with dog shit on his shoes for a joke?

My partner says don’t quit on me we can make it through this shit. But the booth of us have a kinf in our backs form these guys just because we are the number one crew.

I am getting pisssed and losing my train of thought.

But I called the boss and told him I need to talk.

I want to tell him;

I cant sit through the stupid meeting about this shit. With these dumb asses who can’t see what the guy did was wrong.

Seriously if he can’t see that there is a knife in my back from this fuck, and why I just do not want to be there.

While she was tellling me about her being moplested and raped I had to relive when I was 16 a runaway and a fricken minister had me cornered in a safe house and was groping me, lucky for him when he saw my hunting knife pointed at his gut I kept in my pants he changed his mind. This dude was bigger than me I still probably could have killed him with out a knife but none of it I like to remember, and

It was nothing come pared to what my partmner went through from twelve - 22

neither of us want to remebner that shit and be forced to sit through a meeting about tis shit and rember it again.

This harrassment meeting is just comon sense and you CAN NOT TEACH COMMON SENSE TOO ADULTS WHO HAVE NONE.

fire the stupid fucks

Seriously passing a pic from guy to guy is one thing if done discretely when you have female co-workers probably still not right, but right on the seat of her truck.

Her and I have all these guys pisssed just because we have proven we are better, and now this shit.

They are mad at us because there buddy fucked up.

I am still of the old school where if you fuck up and get caught fess up and take it.

I paid for the whole seat but I only needed the edge.

I have no idea where to begin. The Equal Opportunity Commission(EEOC) protects employers from sexual harassment and violence. If your boss cannot and will not protect her. She can take the case to arbitration.

The whole thread was difficult to comprehend, but you may be in the clear and your boss could be take down.
Do you have a union that you can go to?

No I have no union to go to.
I am sorry it was difficult to comprehend.

It comes down to these guys did not like to work with her because she was and is better than them. I chose to work with her because she is the best.

So they are mad at us because since then we have become the #1 crew.

Some fool in the co. put porn on her seat.

He got a three day suspension.

My old partner said I looked at a swim suit issue on his truck, and failed to mention it was his issue.

So,he is trying to turn tables on me and her calling her a whiner.

Her and I have issues in our past similar she was raped and I had a guy attempt to rape me when I was a kid but he did not like my hand on knife pointed at his stomach, and my other hand on his throat.

She had to relive her incident which was similar to the picture, and that brought back mine as she vented to me.

Now every one is mad at us because this guy got suspended from work. On top of the fact we raised the curve at work for productivity.

The boss says we have to go to sensitivity training and harassment training.

Her and I included.

If she and you realy want to take effective action, have her contact an attorney, and prepare yourself to make a deposition of what you have witnessed regarding her treatment in the workplace.

Management will usualy just play cover their own ass on stuff like this, doing as little as possible, but enough to say they did something. Hence the sensativity training.

Sue them and spend the money on a freshman composition class.

Ha Ha. Maybe I should spend more time organizing my thoughts, but I never have that much time, and I was pretty pissed off.

Sounds like everyone at your job could use sexual harassment training.
What can it hurt? Everyone then can understand what it is that sexual harassment is.
as far as the mental trauma she is carrying, and if you are her friend at work, and she is having trouble putting the issues that occurred to her behind her, suggest some therapy or something.

Was that English?

So everyone is pissed at you guys because they’re going to have to take all the porn down in their trucks huh? Maybe they can all get one of those new Mac phones that are going to be available this Friday and they can watch like 7 hours of porn on it…of course that leaves an hour they’ll have to work but maybe they won’t be as pissed if they know there is a solution out there to get their porn fix.

I know I’m probably grasping at straws here but there has got to be a way they can have their porn at work…there has just got to be a way.

[quote]Phatshady912 wrote:
Sue them and spend the money on a freshman composition class.[/quote]

I LOLed at this

This has the makings of a lawyer’s dream case. There is enough evidence on both sides that the lawyers can drag this out for months and make an absolute killing.

If you’re going to take legal action, be prepared to quit. We have sexual harrassment training every year and that is one thing they’ve said they always recommend to someone filing a lawsuit against their employer.

Btw, most companies nowadays require annual sex-harrassment training. And for you and your partner to think that you should be excluded from any training is silly-talk.

DB

[quote]dollarbill44 wrote:
This has the makings of a lawyer’s dream case. There is enough evidence on both sides that the lawyers can drag this out for months and make an absolute killing.

If you’re going to take legal action, be prepared to quit. We have sexual harrassment training every year and that is one thing they’ve said they always recommend to someone filing a lawsuit against their employer.

Btw, most companies nowadays require annual sex-harrassment training. And for you and your partner to think that you should be excluded from any training is silly-talk.

DB[/quote]

…I don’t get it?

[quote]Phatshady912 wrote:
Sue them and spend the money on a freshman composition class.[/quote]

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAAHA

Beautiful. I couldn’t even read through the god damned thing before I quit to scrolled down and read some comments.

Take big breath, relax and write an outline. No one likes to read unorganised diatribes.

Your first draft gets a grade of F. Go back and rewrite this shit and post your succinct final draft.

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I think you’re overly worked up. The guy got suspended for 3 days. Now it’s up to you and your partner to relax, go about your work, and see if things change.

If they don’t change, then get riled up again and take the appropriate action.

[quote]dollarbill44 wrote:
Btw, most companies nowadays require anal sex training. And for you and your partner to think that you should be excluded from any training is silly-talk.

DB[/quote]

Does your company require you to go in for anal sex training too, DB? Damn!

[quote]Mousse wrote:
So everyone is pissed at you guys because they’re going to have to take all the porn down in their trucks huh? Maybe they can all get one of those new Mac phones that are going to be available this Friday and they can watch like 7 hours of porn on it…of course that leaves an hour they’ll have to work but maybe they won’t be as pissed if they know there is a solution out there to get their porn fix.

I know I’m probably grasping at straws here but there has got to be a way they can have their porn at work…there has just got to be a way.[/quote]

hahahahahaahah

[quote]kroby wrote:
dollarbill44 wrote:
Btw, most companies nowadays require anal sex training. And for you and your partner to think that you should be excluded from any training is silly-talk.

DB

Does your company require you to go in for anal sex training too, DB? Damn![/quote]

Any company worth a salt provides free anal sex training. It’s the next big benefits idea, like the 401K (going back 20 years).

DB

[quote]StevenF wrote:
Was that English? [/quote]

I think so, but I’m not sure of anything these days. Punctuation, capitalization, et al, have gone by the wayside it seems. Grammar nazi fa lyf3!

[quote]florianopolis wrote:

Take big breath, relax and write an outline. No one likes to read unorganised diatribes.

[/quote]

Seriously, dude.

If you want the opinion of folks here it’s a lot easier to get when you focus your thoughts, and organize them.

It sucks what you’re dealing with, dude, I don’t envy you.

Good luck and best wishes.