My girlfreind has been coming to the gym with me after hours recently. She was going ok, just spending some time on the cardio and doing some machine weights, but not working very hard. She is very self conscious and would stop doing an exercise if I watched her and that (pain in the ass when your trying to show her how to do it).
Anyway I thought I would show her how to deadlift today because I thought it might give her a bit of a boost to move a bit of weight.
I set the bar up on racks with no weight just to teach her the movement and after demonstrating I got her to have a go. It was so weird, she just did not want to give it a go. Its hard to explain but she wouldn’t even get into the proper position to start the lift. She just started saying that she couldn’t do it and that she was just shit at this stuff (I was not critical at all).
I just found it crazy that she didn’t think she could do it, even before she had really tried. I admit that after that I got a little frustrated and we had an argument. She didn’t do anything after that and was pretty upset.
I feel bad, cause she was upset, maybe I shouldn’t have got her doing deadlifts yet untill her confidence was better.
On the otherhand I am actually turned off that she wouldn’t give it a go and had such a bad attitude about it, I just think it is a really weak mentality.
The only up side is that after that I pulled a 4 plate a side deadlift PR that I had missed twice in the last month.