It’s easy to sit back and dole out advise from behind the key board on some of these breakup threads but what do you guys do in real life when it’s someone you know?
A young friend recently confided to me what he’s going through with his wife and I can see so clearly what really is going on and what the kid should do about it but I bite my tongue because I don’t know if I should risk influencing his path in life on a matter this big. I think I could save him a lot of heart ache in the long run but I hesitate to be so blunt with him.
About ten years ago there was a similar circumstance with a friend and I told him he needed to hire a PI to follow her to find out what he needed to know. That’s what he did and he learned a lot of valuable information. I’m not sure why I didn’t hesitate to speak up to that friend, maybe because he is my peer whereas this young friend could be my son.
I’m very conflicted. On one hand I want to tell the kid what he needs to do and on the other hand I think he needs to find his own way.