My oldest son plays on a soccer team that just finished their season. Of course EVERYONE has to get a tropy. Problem is 18 players and only 12 trophies. Luckily we have 6 1st place trophies from another season that we can change up the name plates on and hand out.
The other coaches (I’m one of 4) decided to hand out the 1st place trophies to the kids that were best offense, defense, all around, etc. and they wanted input from me on who I thought should be awarded these trophies.
I provided my input and then watched the Pittsburgh game. I try not to get too involved with the decision making process as 4 coaches is way too many and I don’t want to add to the clutter. I also coach 2 other teams all by myself so I don’t need the hassle of making these decisions.
When the game was over (4 hours later basically) I had like 15-20 emails with these clowns debating the merits of Johnny over Billy, etc…
So…I sent out an email saying, “Another option is to not give anyone a tropy”.
This seemed logical to me and was meant mostly in jest. We won one game all season and we kept stressing how the whole point was to learn more about soccer and have fun. So…who the fuck wants a trophy for winning only one game.
Anyway…about an hour later I got an email from one of the other coaches. The trophies are to be handed out at a party on Saturday. This is the email:
"You know what Sen? I so badly want to say “you win”, because I’m just done with it. It’s been a very loooong season of soccer. I would think that you would just go with me on this since I’ve been the main coach all season, but I can see that you are going to just be an ass. You’ll probably continue to be an ass on Saturday. You probably won’t let your kid enjoy it because it’s just
a stupid “Rec league” with a bunch of shitty teenagers right?
I’m not sure why… but hey… you got it. You win. You email the parents and tell them that we have nothing to give the kids. You come and get the CD with the pictures and get them printed for them and you organize the pizza
party. If you don’t want to do those things… piss off."
The 2 other coaches called him on this and said I was great, etc. I’ve been coaching with these guys for 8 years. I took a league that had about 50 kids and over 8 years grew it to over 500 kids.
Anyway, the coach that called me an ass in his email followed up with an epistle explaining we took it out of context and he didn’t mean any harm and that’s just how he talks.
What say you? Should I let it roll off, or take offense?