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Good id rather that then school

Basically school is a living hell for kids with ASD, I also Have ADHD as well which again Kids with ADHD have a terrible experience with school. So i have double.

1 i cant handle being around hundreds of people) also being forced to be around many people and i have ASD so this Gives me bad anxiety. If i trust someone and they are a close friend i like to socialise but otherwise that I dont want to be around that many people. I prefer to be by myself. It stresses me out severely to be around lots of people. I do not understand people at all so its hard for me to be friends with many people, I feel like a Robot sometimes too.

  1. Stress. I hate school and have always hated It, I dread it everyday. It’s boring as fuck and all I want to do is leave, It’s hard for me to focus on anything because i am only good at fixating on certain things and the rest is extremely difficult to focus and do anything. (Autism again) so i am bored all day because In most classes i sit there doing nothing and can not focus. The only relief is talking to my mates and time passes by quicker.

  2. This ties in with 1 but i hate when people are loud, This too stresses me out severely and is apart of my asd. I have to hear loud people all day. I also do not like yelling and conflict. One of the reasons I was getting so crazy with those stupid dicks is because i hate conflict.

4.At school I am incredibly drained, Whilst at school I feel super tired and lethargic and weak etc. As soon as i get home I feel way better. School exhausts me simply because of the mental strain of it. I do not sleep much during the week because i have school. But yeah at school I feel physically and mentally miserable.

5: I can not handle sitting down for long periods of time, I need to fiddle or move around or occupy myself. It drives me insane.

  1. It’s hard for me to learn, My brain fires at a million thoughts per second (ADHD) so its hard as hell to absorb information. This mixes badly with autism because the autism makes it hard enough to focus on things that I am not interested in. which is most things at school.

  2. ADHD symptoms which affect school:

|Finds it hard to concentrate
Makes careless mistakes
Does not seem to listen
Avoids difficult tasks
Does not follow through on instructions
Has difficulty finishing work
Frequently loses things
Has difficulty planning and being on time Tends to fidget or squirm
Gets up during class when not supposed to

  • Often interrupts others (im alot better then i used to be but every now and then yes)
    Often ‘on the go’ or acts as if ‘driven by a motor’
  • Blurts out answers before questions have been finished (used to do this)
    Feels restless
    Acts without thinking things through
    finds it hard to deal with boredom and frustration

Impulsive as you know I’m impulsive

Here are some snippets of information i could find that I relate to:

  • Lack the complex social skills that are intuitive to others. They may struggle to establish and maintain friendships or they may experience bullying. (Bullying all my life)

  • Experience sensory difficulties which can make it difficult to tolerate some aspects of the school environment such as [noise, smells, lighting]

  • Struggle with anxiety and find it hard to be apart from family, or away from the familiar [routines of home]

Here are more symptoms of ADHD and ASS

ADHD:

  • Impulsiveness
  • Disorganization and problems prioritizing
  • Poor time management skills
  • Problems focusing on a task
  • Trouble multitasking
  • Excessive activity or restlessness
  • Poor planning
  • Low frustration tolerance
  • Frequent mood swings
  • Problems following through and completing tasks
  • Hot temper
  • Trouble coping with stress

Some Asd:

  • Difficulty interpreting what others are thinking or feeling
  • Trouble interpreting facial expressions, body language, or social cues
  • Difficulty regulating emotion
  • Trouble keeping up a conversation
  • Inflection that does not reflect feelings
  • Difficulty maintaining the natural give-and-take of a conversation; prone to monologues on a favorite subject
  • Tendency to engage in repetitive or routine behaviors
  • Only participates in a restricted range of activities
  • Strict consistency to daily routines; outbursts when changes occur
  • Deep knowledge of one particular topic, such as a certain branch of science or industry

As you can see, All these things mixed together make school very very horrible.

There is alot more but hands down school is a living nightmare, All my life It has been fucked up. It’s just fucked up. I can’t wait for it to be over

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Have you been to any doctors for diagnosis and medication (for the ADHD) and coping strategies (for the ASD), as well as assistance resources available publicly or through medical facilities? Or are you self-diagnosing?

As someone who is on the spectrum myself, as well as having ADD (not ADHD luckily), and who has a son who is autistic, I can empathize and sympathize with your plight, but there is a lot you can do that can make life easier for you. It’s not a sentence for lifelong misery, I promise you, but you have to reach out for the help that’s available, it’s not going to come to you unless you have really good school resources.

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Yeah man. I used to be on dexies but i stopped taking them, They didn’t really help and i dont want to take something that people abuse and sell

That’s really weird, Out of all the psychologists/Counsellors etc ive been to none discussed coping strategies for asd.

What kind of things help with like managing it and stuff?

There’s other options if that one didn’t work, and don’t let the fact that some people abuse something deter you from using it if it’s what you need.

That is really strange. I know that the doctors are more about evaluating and diagnosing than treating, but I’ve seen some counselors with my son who had a lot of suggestions. Honestly, though, I think the most help for him came from the autism support group we joined in Southern California. We haven’t found anything comparable here in Kansas, but he’s also managing things a lot better on his own now. I would look for autism support groups in your area, depending on how urban the area is there could be one very close. If you’re in a small town, you might have to travel to find one.

I wasn’t diagnosed until adulthood, and as far as the ADD goes, I was already self-medicating with caffeine, and was fairly decently managing for myself. As far as coping strategies for ASD, that depends a lot on where you fall on the spectrum. Even though I wasn’t diagnosed as a child, I knew I was ‘different’, and I had a lot of trouble interpreting emotions and understanding correct responses to a given situation. One memorable incorrect response was when my mom’s best friend wished me happy birthday and I didn’t know she was there, and I was surprised by her and my response was ‘thanks, but I’ve had enough happy birthday without you.’ I didn’t understand why her feelings were hurt.

I’ve literally spent my entire life consciously building a mental database of stimulus/correct response, and logic trees of how conversations are supposed to go. Stuff that comes naturally and automatically for most people, I had to painstakingly learn at an intellectual level where I didn’t get it at an empathic level. One of the hardest but most valuable things I did in Jr High and High School was to take drama every year, and to force myself to get up on stage and perform, as terrifying as it was for me. It was, again quite literally, a case of learning to ‘fake it until you make it’. It never got easy, but doing it on stage in front of an audience allowed me to learn to follow a script and to do it as if nobody was listening. It also helped me learn, in an exaggerated manner, what inflection and expression went with what emotions.

I’m a supervisor at work, and I have to get up in front of groups of people every day and present information. I’ve also been a classroom instructor. Both of those things still terrify me, but I’ve trained myself to get up there and do them, and I’ve gotten good at it.

I still get it wrong sometimes, and I occasionally still get anxiety where I’ll worry myself over some faux pas I made that day, or the week before, and it will keep me up at night. Those incidents are a lot fewer and further between, though, and I manage it better. I’m not a WooWoo person at all, or religious, but I have learned meditation as part of martial arts training, and that along with focused breathing exercises helps a lot in managing anxiety.

Bottom line, I made a conscious decision to learn how to live a normal life, and then I started looking for the things I needed to change to make that possible, and started cultivating those changes. That’s an easy thing to say, but like I said, it’s been a lifelong, difficult process, and it’s still a work in progress. I’m 54 years old now, and my life is better than it’s ever been. I have 2 failed marriages behind me, but I’m now married to the love of my life. I have 4 kids and 2 grandkids. I have a good job that I’m successful at. It’s never too late to turn things around and build a good life for yourself, and you’re young, you have plenty of time.

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It scares the hell out of me!

Yeah im in the city area so Wouldnt be one too far away

High functioning.

Damn dude. One of the worst things for me i can remember is anytime if i got a present for Christmas or my birthday i wouldn’t feel anything, Id fake the excitement and appreciation so not to offend people. When i was really little i Pretended to get excited by Santa and the Easter bunny etc because i didn’t actually care. At quite a young age i decided they were fake “Why is everything made in China not the north pole.”

I live away away from my sister and mum and quite often i will not be in contact with them, It offends them that I have not called them or something but it is not there fault

For me not being able to Control alot of things that I feel or do disturbs me. The fact that I just struggle to feel Certain emotions towards people makes me feel inhumane. So yeah I feel detached from reality.

That is really amazing dude

Quite a thorough richtig so thanks for taking the time.
We were on the topic of sleep: So I understand correctly then that your sleep issues are related to your anxiety about school?
I won’t pretend to know the slightest bit about the conditions you described or how to deal with it but @OTHSteve has outlined a lot of good stuff.

I know a few things about anxiety and worse stuff like panic attacks. My Most important tip is always: get help. Allow yourself to accept help. Like I said - very different boat but still I can’t Imagine that there is nothing that can be done to improve.

Correct

If there’s a will there’s a way

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Hey Young Duke

I think how you described the ADHD and ASD and how it affected you, was outstanding. If that were your words, you’ve done a damn good job.

Your conversation with Steve was awesome too.
I think you’re learning a lot from life and from this forum as well. Pwn has told you some good stuff too. Really straight forward.
I’m really hoping and believing that you’ll end up doing great in life.

Love you log Young Duke.

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Yeah I’ve never spoken about it much before. It was good to write stuff down. The dot points and stuff though were from resources i found online.

Thanks man

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Okay ordering a new Belt because mine is way too big. Had a rough week and training was messed up (Only 1 session) so that puts me behind a week but not going to let it effect me.

Well done to my Good friend Ngarimu! Won the u90kg Arnold’s.

Got a few WA Competitors there and awesome to see the people who I’ve witnessed work hard in training and at competition to come this far. Betting on Paul Hough from WA to Take out the u105’s. Also Matt Blanch who is competing in heavyweights for the first time as he dominates u105’s and came Tenth at worlds. Paul and matt both train at my gym so yeahhh buddy!

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Saw your boy compete today and he was awesome. Very powerful.

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There is zero competition for him In WA. He’s dominated Wa’s strongest man the last 2 years and put up 8th in the world last year at Static monsters. Beast!!

On another note someone stole all the gold medals today, so no one was able to get there medal! Arnold’s is shipping them in the mail though. :rage:

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Matt won The heavy weights Amateurs. Got a massive Frame Deadlift of 460kg!!

Paul was 1 point off 3rd but bombed the last two events when he tore his groin on stone warmups :confused:

Insane.

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Todays training deep water intermediate week 4
Missed last week besides one session, which was ****** Got sick for two days and then after that didnt sleep at all pretty much for two days in a row. I’m pissed but it is what it is.

Deadlift
100 reps in 9 or less sets

100kg
6×15
1×10

5×10 box jumps

Reverse hyper superset with 1 minute plank 3 rounds no rest
30kg on hypers.

I threw up on rep 11 on 6th set of the deads and swallowed my vomit, set the bar down,reset and did 4 more reps. It was brutal as hell.

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Nothing like finding your vomit threshold. Quality

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Second time I have vomited! The time before was about a month ago, I supersetted prowler with ski erg 30 seconds prowler and 30 second erg. 1 minute rest for 5 sets then 2 minutes rest for the remaining 5 rounds. I puked the end of set 9 i believe. It was kind of intentional though, I went into the conditioning knowing I would most likely puke haha.

Todays training Deep water week 4 w2
Axle press strict
40kg. Was supposed to be 35 but I misplaced 40 and did my first set and realised. I was too lazy to make it 35 so I stuck with it and a big mistake that was…

6×15
1×10. A few sets had to re rack the bar, On the final set I failed the 10th rep 3 times before getting it. I grinded it for ten seconds and saw stars but it was epic.

5×10 axle curls. Just the bar

3×1 minute plank

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Holy shit. OMG OMG OMG OMG DEVON LARRATT IS HOLDING A SEMINAR AT GOLDS GYM IN THE NEXT SUBURB FROM ME IT COST 25. NEXT THURSDAY ( Not this thursday) OMG OMG

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