Has anyone here quit drinking alcohol altogether? Why did you do it? How did you do it? Was there pressure from friends or family to drink anyways?
After significant history of substance abuse, it became clear that not only was it not working, it was messing everything up really badly.
I was court ordered to attend a 12 step recovery based program. It was there that people encouraged me to stop and shared coping strategies on how to put down the bottle and not pick it back up.
No. They were all pretty done with my shit.
Ok. Your turn.
I have quit due to liver/pancreas issues (not related to alcohol).
I wasn’t drinking very much by the time i quit anyway, so it wasn’t bad. Go cold turkey. I eventually realized that while I like the taste of beer and whiskey, I hate feeling out of control of my faculties.
However, social drinking in my family is pretty common (German heritage), but nobody pressures me other than some good-natured ribbing.
There are level here: Are you getting drunk multiple times a week? Or do you occasionally have a few too many?
If the former, I probably can’t be much help.
I had to due to medical reasons (I have epilepsy and alcohol triggers seizures for me). It wasn’t entirely a bad thing in retrospect…I drank PLENTY in high school, college, and post-graduation that, for the most part, I don’t really miss it. You save a shitload of money and don’t put on unwanted fat. I suppose the only thing I miss, if anything, is just sitting outside on a hot day with a friend and having a cold one or two. Other than that, I’m fine without it.
I quit for at least one month per year. Gives the body a break and is a good exercise in and of itself. However, I have not quit for more than 6 months ever. Its a question of levels/health /enjoyment/consequences in your life.
I quit drinking Sunday to Thursday every week. Only moderate drinking during those two days of the weekend (like 2 glasses of wine) unless it is some unlikely social event.
I actually hate drinking because I get ill-feeling quickly, have a terrible night sleep with just one drink (sleep apnea),and am effectively hung over the next day from almost no booze.
There is tremendous pressure to drink in international business. I am really happy Covid restricted business travel now and probably in the future. I was getting past the point where I had to travel anyway, but it has been a nice break. I really and truly despise it.
Culturally, especially with my wife, she expect a Shabbos meal with wine on Friday. I oblige. There is not only religious significance to wine, it’s an extended meal where all family issues (well, not mine, but my wife’s and daughters’) are repeated ad naseum. I would probably murder someone if I did not have wine to dull the pain.
I quit 1 year ago, previously I stopped drinking for a year and felt amazing but returned to my home country (UK) where the weather is terrible so socialising in a pub is the easy thing to do. Moved back to a hot country and within a month stopped drinking and doubt I’ll ever start again. I just quit, if you don’t have a substance issue its fairly easy with a little will power when you in situations where you would of used to drink. My friends think its odd but none of them really care or try to convince to have one.
yes, next to allowing for less drinking it saves a lot of time. will be interesting to see how this evolves and what type of meetings will remain in person going forward.
I quit drinking last night at about 7:30 or so -
Not sure how long that’ll last…
just get through today
everything bad thing/set back/ chaotic situation that happens to me, somewhere in the story there was drinking.
replaced alcohol with trt, sarms, vitamins (pills powders potions), and a barbell
Haven’t quit, just cut down. I used to have 2-3 beers pretty much every week day night, and more on weekend nights. It was just silly during the week days as it was only a little buzz. Weekends I still drink, but not as much.
What I really need to kill is the cigar habit. Puff on it a little after work, get back from the gym light it up again. It isn’t comparable to a pack a day or anything, but it isn’t like I get much out of it, and it has to be fairly negative for long term health. I will start the cessation today.
That sounds kind of intense, thanks for sharing. As for myself, i finally decided to quit just a few days ago, but its something i thought of for a while. When i was younger, i just genuinly enjoyed a couple drinks every now and then. I only got drunk a couple times. However, i have dealt with depression and anxiety for a long time too and over the past year or so i have noticed that i have been using alcohol to self medicate rather than enjoy it. Its not a road i want to continue down because i have seen in my own extended family how bad that can be. There are some drinkers in my family, and i have one uncle who doesnt mean any harm but he could definatly pressure you to have a drink. He just wants everyone to have a good time.
No i have only been drunk a couple times. I mentioned it in reply to someone else but i have noticed over the past year or so i have been using it to self medicate against depression and anxiety. I also noticed that even after one drink im a different person and i dont like that person
The funny thing I have noticed and used quite a bit around people who are exuberant/pushy is to have a soft drink or coffee in a cup and I just raise that up, nod (like Di caprio in the memes) and give them a “Yeahhh! I’m good man!” and just move on.
They’re having a good time, everything appears copacetic, and a good time is had by all.
I quit drinking about 33 years ago as a matter of choice. I was never a huge drinker, I drank about a 6 pack of beer a week and would drink rum and coke socially. But I did also smoke a ton of pot! I could put snoop dog to shame!
When I was about 28 I got interested in working out(mainly to get close to a girl who is now my wife) who was teaching aerobics at a gym.
At first I tried to do both working out and drinking but as I progressed from the workouts I noticed that my performance sucked the day after drinking, even one beer.
Some old guy told me you cant do both, he said if you’re drinking, you’re shrinking! That stuck with me and so I gave up the smoking and drinking cold turkey and have not touched either since.
I will definatly try that, thanks
A client, an alcoholic, was reading this book a couple of years ago and had high praise, though she noted “I don’t agree with everything in it.” Within a few months of reading it, she stopped drinking cold turkey and has remained happily sober. I’d picked up the book and read maybe half of it before getting bored and putting it down. At some point during covid I picked it back up and finished it. It’s outstanding. I’m not an alcoholic, but a problem I’ve had is finding the brakes in certain social situations. Since reading the book, I don’t think I’ll ever have another hangover again, because as others have mentioned in this thread, my priority is having fun with my friends, not imbibing a substance that’s going to first open me to embarrassing myself, then leave me to wake up feeling completely drained - a wasted weekend day. The book is about exploring what booze does and does not do for you; a critical exploration. It’s geared toward alcoholics, but I found it helpful, too. It calls into question AA’s stance that the alcoholic is sick and always will be, preferring a more positive spin, which is essentially “OMG, I don’t HAVE to do this if I don’t want to!”
I will look into that thanks
For me, it came down to purpose and wanting to become the best version of me possible. A very traumatic event happened in my life, and I was forced to take stock. I asked myself several questions. What do I want out of this life? Have I achieved my goals? If not, what’s holding me back? One of those things was alcohol consumption. It was killing my will to live and succeed in life. It took me to the darkest places physically, mentally, and spiritually.
I’d like to say that it was something where I just grabbed myself by the balls and pulled myself out of it, but it’s not that simple. For me, the motivation to change is much more intrinsic that just satisfying ego or even raw willpower.
I still have thoughts of having a cold one with friends, or sitting around the table BSing over a bottle of whiskey…but almost immediately now, questions come to mind. Is this going to help me reach my goals? What will the next day look like if you spend half the night getting plastered, will it ruin my motivation for the next day? The answers to those questions now stop me cold in my tracks and I switch the focus to my purpose. The difference the past and today for me is that this has no longer become a simple mental decision. This has become a guardrail that I cannot push through. It’s not just a fork in the road. It’s a road that I MUST take. In my mind, there is no choice to make. No amount of peer pressure can make me cave in. This also applies to bodybuilding, diet, conditioning, finances, career…just about any goal that I set in my mind that I want to achieve. I swear, I did not have this kind of determination until I decided in my heart I wanted to be the best man that I could possibly be. Until I made this decision in my life, I floundered constantly, tossed and turned by every wave in life and just let the current take me where ever I happened to drift.
I don’t know if this helps. I believe we all change (or in my case, grow up) when life’s circumstances force us to take an honest, hard look at ourselves and our current circumstances and then make a decision that we want something different than what the dark part of ourselves is asking for.
Always here to talk if you want to…just reach out.