As some of you know, I have a 5 year old. Long story short...parent-teacher conferences are this week and I informed the teacher that I wanted my son to attend. The reason for this is that I want to teach him to become engaged in his education (and things that directly affect him) and I don't want a "filter" when discussing his performance. There are no major issues that I'm aware of and his report card was good. I just want him to "participate", particularly as it concerns a minor behavioral issue he has in terms of working independently and not disturbing others.
The teacher discussed my intention with the principal and I am meeting resistance. No explanation, just an "against policy" and it's a "parent-teacher" conference and not a "parent-teacher-student" conference. No shit - as if I needed the literal distinction spelled out to me while ignoring the practical explanation for resistance.
I'm truly bewildered and looking for a second opinion and maybe a teacher's perspective. Why shouldn't this open communication be ENCOURAGED among teacher/parent/student? What is the practical need for a "filter"??? Seems to me the conference would be much more valuable if the student attended.
What am I missing here? I"m not interested in debating my parenting decision. I'm interested in knowing what the hell the problem is...