Need some advice. Quick background…
Divorced my wife of 13 years back in 2012. We have three children together and have shared legal custody. Divorce was kinda-sorta amicable, and as a result, the agreement was fairly vague in retrospect with regards to the kids. Visitation was laid out pretty clearly, not disparaging one another in front of them, etc.
However, there have been a number of issues regarding their medical care that have raised my concern. Also some stuff regarding school. When we disagree on something she is (and has always been) utterly unwilling to listen to opposing views, logic, precedent, etc. Additionally, she has made what any thinking person would consider some very poor decisions regarding their welfare (for example, sending my 12 year old to school two days after being diagnosed with pneumonia).
I think I need to have modifications made to the agreement to provide some sort of mechanism, a “tie-breaker” if you will, for these sorts of situations.
What I am asking for is suggestions… stuff I may not have though of already.
- What sort of potential conflicts need to be spelled out in the modification (medical, school, religion, etc.)
- What to propose for resolving these conflicts
- Anything else I might not have thought of
FWIW, this is in Massachusetts. Not a state with a reputation for being overly dad-friendly… but I’m told the judge presiding over the docket now (not the one who originally handled the divorce) is fairly reasonable, and I haven’t found any horror stories or complaints about him online to suggest otherwise.