I don't know how to multi quote so I'm going to have to address you one by one:
Cbear: the shoulder issue is pretty complicated, I suppose the answer would be muscle wastage In the rhomboid, tres minor and major lower traps, rotars, and upper lats. But really the muscle for the most part was never there, it has had the docs baffled since day one and for a while they thought she had muscular dystrophy and told her she'd be in a wheel chair in less than a year!
Thankfully it wasn't but they have just said 'we don't have a clue' in the end, her mother has a theory it is because she fell while pregnant.
Dislocating her shoulders is very common, obviously heavy stuff does it but things like reaching out for stuff or even tying her hair up cause a lot of pain and can throw them out.
As you can see she is limited in what she can do, some nights I have to put her hair up for her because they're hurting so bad, so KB work is out too.
TPD: that is acctually a great thread and the activation routine looks great, I may even be borrowing that for myself too (although some of the idioms are a bit off- I never get head like that :p)
Dasher: like I said here ^^^^ pull throughs and KB are out but I'll be recommending hip thrusts dispute my prior doubts, maybe I just have terrible motor units in my ass, prehaps I should be using the program from TPDs thread!
ALL: well i realised that given the lack of much strength training (we're pretty much limited to BW or vest lunges, leg press and sprints etc) she can't really expect much localised growth from this but she's asked me to help and I intend to do the best I can.
I'm also buying her bands and I was going to get her doing very light rows to see If the depleared areas could develop some at all, as every slight increase will help relieve the issue.