I have my psychology degree so i know a good deal about how people think. Theres things that we all can do to help the newbies without turning them off to the sport or sacrificing much of our own energy. Lets face it, being a newbie sucks, we dont need to make it any harder for them.
The reason why you should care is obvious. Our sport is wonderful, and makes our lives better. If you have the ability to share it, please do so. Our sport will grow and even doing some simple things can help spread it so others like ourselves can benefit.
First of all, I want to talk about what goes on in the gym. Obviously new guys suck at training at the beginning. DONT tell them they are doing things wrong. This will make them feel embarassed and puny, which is not what we want. Instead, TALK to them like you were talking to a pro. Trust me, this works.
Last month I saw a small geeky looking 16 yr old doing squats with terrible form. He was mostly using his back, head down, back bent over, etc. I walked up to him and said “hey, do you like doing squats more with your back bent and head down?.. I used to do it that way, but now I keep my back straight, head up, etc… Try that, maybe it could give you some good results” …
The kid knew he wasnt an expert, so he took my suggestion, and now whenever i see him training legs, he does squats perfectly. Imagine if I were to tell him “hey, you’re doing that wrong, dont bend ur back, dont look down, etc.” He would feel like a complete idiot and would be very embarassed whenever in the gym.
This may be enough to turn some people away from our sport when they are in that fragile beginner phase. Also, those newbs look up to us experienced/big guys. If you see a newb putting 110% into shoulder presses, tell him “damn, that was a monster set”.
Whenever talking to a newb, ALWAYS use POSITIVE language. Examples are " This works for me, maybe you can try it and see what you think" or… " I usually do squats in the squat rack, can i work in with you if you are gong to be doing curls?"
This positive language will teach them the lesson without making them feel out of place or embarassed. DONT use language like " if you do it that way, you are going to injure ur shoulder" or " squat racks are for squatting, not curling"
The next thing is about this board. Newbs may not do things right, they may openly ask for sources or ask dumb questions that could have been solved by doing research on their own. I see older members telling them they are idiots for sourcing, or that they are incompetent and that their question could have been answered by doing research.
Talking to them like that is not productive. Instead, pm them and say “hey man, i saw your source post and thought id give you a heads up. sourcing like that can be dangerous cuz some cops watch this board, i dont want u to get caught, so you might want to think about keeping that stuff on the down low.” thats better than calling them fuckheads for laughing and telling them to go to ebay.
Also, if they ask a dumb training question, instead of posting a reply saying they are lazy and a rookie, post a reply with a link to mesomorphosis or bb.com. and say that they have some good articles relating to the question.
Too many people around here and at the gym make new guys feel inferior and embarassed. If you want this sport to grow, talk to them the right way using positive language instead of negatives.