[quote]Professor X wrote:
The only method that’s ever worked for me without getting in trouble was to ask her if she would like to meet me and a few other co-workers for drinks after work. I’m not sure if that would apply to your situation though.
I’ve tried being a little more direct, like asking them out to lunch or dinner, but most of the time they’ve politely declined or said something along the lines of that they don’t like to date co-workers.
That’s been my experience anyway…
I have let at least 2 TENS slip past me because I wasn’t sure how to handle the situation.
I guess it would help if I did go out to bars or clubs, but I don’t. Therefore, most of the ones I see are either at the store, the gym, or at work.[/quote]
I hear you. It’s getting harder for me since I don’t really drink that much anymore and I’m not a clubber. I also don’t drink coffee, so what am I supposed to suggest as a casual activity? There are a few girls at the gym I’m interested in, but I really don’t know how to approach that situation myself. I’m not wild about making my gym an uncomfortable place to be if things don’t work out.
One of the co-workers I asked out in the past was particularly frustrating because she told me had we not been co-workers, she would have been interested. I tried to get her to quit.