My wife wants to start training, but she constantly brings up something to the effect of, “no matter what I do my tummy is going to look terrible because the skin is so loose and I know you know Julia Ladewski and other women who compete and stuff but you don’t know if they’ve had a tummy tuck or not and I bet they all did.”
This mentality is keeping her from getting started. My mentality is, “let’s get to work and if that ends up being the only problem after you’ve made great progress, then we’ll address it.”
She’s 32, 5’6 and very lean (for a normal person). She isn’t ever going to compete, but she would have done well in local bikini divisions if she were inclined to train for one prior to pregnancy. Now she just wants to get her flat tummy back and I want her to feel good about herself, wear bikinis again, and stop hiding her body from me.
How can I help her get over this block? We don’t talk about it much at all. I’m just supportive when she brings up the idea of going to the gym, but I don’t know what to do to keep her going in that direction when she gets discouraged about the skin.