First of all, let me say I have got top class advice for exercise, muscle gain and so on from you people on the forums. Thank you.
I’m 16, 5’9’ and 60kg. Short blond hair, blue eyes, square/handsome face (may add a pic). Not ripped, though working on it and currently ‘fit.’
To put it bluntly, I have had zero success with girls at my high school. On holiday, outside of that environment and my home environment, I can go up to girls, talk to them (to varying degrees of success, want to be more consistent with getting numbers and building attraction, which I know will come with practice) and get contact details etc. quite easily. Just today I went home with about 4 social media names to add from a modelling shoot I did (yes I do that too, which makes my lack of success all the more frustrating). I am beginning to recognise the signs of attraction, just beginning too, but I have a long way to go. I can muster up the courage to go up to a girl, but my problems start there. Sometimes my conversation game flows smoothly. Other times it is hard and I struggle for things to say. I’ve read up on kino, touching etc. but again I have to put it into practice. I think I have a confident walk down: shoulders back, chest out a little, swinging arms, head tilt and so on, been practising that a lot. My problem is getting from the “Hey, I’m Kieren. How about you?” to making out with them, moving past that, getting consistent numbers and closing.
Simply put, I do not know what to do when I need to do it. I know I have it in me. I know I have the potential to pull the best looking, fittest girls at a party, club and so on, but my game is not good enough yet to manifest that self-belief. This effects more or less every area: texting/messaging, flirting, closing, you get the deal. I do not know how to get them chasing me, going after me and wanting me. I’ve recently came out of a bad spot in life, and I am more confident, outgoing and determined that I have been in a long time. It is not that I cannot get with girls full stop, on holiday I was able to in a matter of days with a beautiful Spanish girl my age (15 at the time). It gets me down having so little success and some of my mates having girls message them, be interested in them, and send them flirty messages/pictures. I’m not letting it effect me to any large extent, but I want to be living that life which I know is possible.
I was real shy, introverted and studious when I was younger. I’m a world away from that now. Matured, grown up, adventurous, different and wanting to experience the things I never had a chance to do to any meaningful extent. Almost all the time I can rarely build the attraction to get a girl getting flirty with me, displaying those signals and so forth. I really do not know how to flirt. I can give compliments, and can be quite witty at times, but putting everything together is a challenge. I’m reading a lot of the threads on here, thank you all by the way for your help and for those writing those articles, thanks a million. I am willing to listen, learn and change my ways and how I view the world. I’m already changing it, and it can go as far as I want it to go.
Thanks fellas, and say anything you feel you need to. Any questions, go ahead.