This is going to be long; ADD and short-attention types beware!
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I've lived a miserable 22 years of my life with an unloving family. Unloving? I haven't seen my parents (only marriage) kiss or hug for AS LONG AS I CAN REMEMBER! Weird. Very abnormal. I want to believe they are only together for the tax exemption aspect of life. There is no love in their relationship at all.
Right now, It's just me and my brother (I'm 22, he is 25) and we both agree that the family life we live is unlike any other we have witnessed. They always condescend upon each other, and it's grown to the point where it's affecting my own personal life. I can't grow and mature as a person living in the same zip code as my parents. My poor childhood upbringing has had a direct impact on my personal relationships with women. I do not know how to "love" anybody; past girlfriends have noticed this about me. I'm 'unloving' and I have no choice but to believe that i'm a product of my environment.
I know I sound like an immature high school kid that hates his restricting parents, but it's FAR worse than that. Anytime I get a positive or aspiring thought they both (especially mother) fucking shit all over it. Hard to explain, but negativity is rampant in my household.
The variable? My father makes $100,000+ annually in real-estate and my mother is around $80,000 (teacher for 35+years at same school district) living VERY comfortably in the suburbs of northern Pennsylvania. Why does this matter? The stereotype of a bad childhood is from a low income and financially struggling family that would spawn such a kid. Not so - not in the least.
I went to an out-of-town university for 2 years post-high school and did not do well at all. It was not for me. I was nearly forced to attend college in lieu of parental pressure. My personality type demands my own rules (i.e. self employed) and cannot develop normally around my projecting and condescending parents. Yes, they DID pay for college, albeit I wish they hadn't.
I recently visited a friend who packed-up and moved to Atlanta Georgia to become a police officer. The big-city atmosphere gave me goosebumps. My brain has been telling me to move down there to start a new life. I've been invited to live with him in Marietta, GA in a beautiful gated community in a quiet suburb of Atlanta at an amazing price (300 total with utilities/cable).
I want to go to school there and start a life outside of my current surroundings. A technical school for I.T. I want to do it on my own.
Anyone have experience packing up and PERMANENTLY moving out of their parental situation to start living a new life? It's scary financially, but long term makes it worth while. I know moving away would be best for me, but breaking ties with parents and other branches of family will not be easy. I know I can do it, but alot of planning HAS to be involved. I have my car insurance (I pay) with my dad, my car title I bought(with dad), and student loans (father is paying) I can afford. Not the problem.
What are my steps to break this off? It has to end. I know I answered my own question of whether or not I SHOULD move, but I'm asking if anyone has any experience in this department. It's sad in some ways, but for the long term aspect NEEDS to happen. I didn't choose who my parents are, but I CAN change who I will become in life regardless.
I have negative, loveless parents who are affecting the outcome of my life. I want to relocate to Atlanta GA to start life anew. What are some things I need to consider when breaking off all ties with parents (I'm 22) before packing up all my shit and getting the fuck out of this situation.
Sorry for the long post. This is something I need to discuss.